Ask AmericanLola

I enjoy writing about life in the Philippines, and especially enjoy helping people understand cultural aspects of life in the Philippines. I in no way claim to be the supreme authority on such things, but what I have learned, I can share. I also enjoy talking about Cebuano and explaining things I have learned in [...]


“Please help” the Medical Emergency

I received an email from a man whose fiance has a medical emergency in the family and she has asked for help. This kind of situation is always a difficult one to deal with. Many questions come to mind. Is there really a medical emergency, or am I being scammed? Am I the first resort [...]


Renewing My Driver’s License

When we first came to the Philippines, I went to the LTO (Land Transportation Office), showed them my California license, paid some money and was given an ‘official receipt’ that was good for six months for the real thing, and told to come back for the hard copy. About six months later, the hard copy [...]


The “Foreigner = Money” Problem

[Disclamer: I know all families are not like the ones I am telling you about, but my observation is that the arrival of a foreigner into the family nest brings out the worst in many families. It is a Filipino cultural value that all must benefit from the good fortune of one; that there is [...]


An East Meets West Story

We lived in Gingoog City for 12 years. Our work was primarily among the poor in that city. A friend of ours, Bert, needed to have surgery for a hernia. His livelihood was buying and carrying a couple buckets of fish up into the mountains everyday, and selling them there. The hernia had become a [...]