No Place Like Home!


We have been home one week now, and believe me, there’s no place like home!We had tickets on the last flight of the day and left the condo in Makati a little earlier than we needed to, but it turns out that if we had left much later, we probably would have missed our flight.

As we were pulling away in the taxi, a motorcycle and two vans with flashing lights and sirens went speeding by. I commented to the driver that it was probably a couple politicians going to lunch, but it was the police going to close off Makati. The little drama/’coup’ was just two blocks from where we were. Turns out a couple fellows who were the object of a judicial hearing there in Makati because they led the take-over of a different hotel in 2002 (?), wandered out of the courthouse and did it again! One brilliant fellow, Trillanes, ran for senate while in prison and won. He was they guy who, when there was an explosion at Glorietta Mall last month (a gas explosion, not a bomb) made the statement that he was sure that this was purposely done by Gloria and her government to rally support and gain more power…Anyway, we were almost slowed down by the latest act of the Philippine political comedy, which would be funny if it wasn’t so sad. Great country, amazing natural resources, wonderful people but destructively bad politics.We got to the airport in plenty of time, the flight (Cebu Pacific) was on time and we were thrilled to arrive home and be hugged by Caryl and Marylan and jumped on by the dogs.AmericanLolo’s third week of liquid diet is was much easier to do now that we are home with our blender, but he went to soft foods yesterday. All seems to be be well with his recovery, for which we are very grateful! We both appreciate all of your concern and prayers. Thank you!

 

Medical Update


Well, here is a short review of our experiences here. After choosing our doctors, we had to run the gaunlet of medical tests in different locations to get our ‘clearance’ to be admitted. This was reviewed by yet another doctor, who, in spite of the fact the AmericanLolo exercises regularly, decided he needed an echo-stress test. This we had done on Saturday out in Binundo, quite a drive from Makati. On Monday we ate dinner at home and then went to the hospital to be admitted at about 8 PM. The hospital, Cardinal Santos, in Greenhills, was very nice! It has been newly renovated and updated, the goal being to be the third hospital in the Philippines to pass the American hospital accreditation process. The other two hospitals with this accreditations are the Philippine Medical Center and St. Luke’s. Everything was very clean and cleanable. They even have some restrictions on visiting hours and discourage visitors under the age of eight!The only quirky things were that the shower water never got very hot, and that venting for the air conditioning was arranged is such a way that the smells of coffee, popcorn or whatever the nurses were eating on break came wafting into our room. No one was cooking dried fish, so we were okay. The rooms were pretty cold, but they gave me a nice blanket to use on the watcher’s ‘bed.’ No IVs or disturbance ’til morning, so that was nice.They wheeled my husband  away at about 8:30 the next morning. I talked to the doctor after the surgery, about 11. Husband was still in recovery. The doctor said it had gone very well and showed me the three pieces they had gotten out, two pieces of tooth, one clearly part of a root canal, and one piece of dead bone. He got back to the room about an hour and a half later, looking surprisingly good, but feeling really awful because he had not had any tea for about 20 hours and had a splitting headache. I asked if he could please have tea, or caffeine in his IV, but they said he had to wait until 5 PM. They relented later and he had some at 4, and felt better right away… Nasty stuff, caffeine. :-)Staying in hospitals is never fun. My husband is a Type 1 diabetic. The blood sugar control was difficult and he finally asked to be freed of the IV and given the freedom to manage his own blood sugar, and after that, by going up and down seven flights of stairs was able to get a handle on it. The doctor for his diabetes was pretty stuffy and not a lot of help. I think she should have been interested, since I am sure she had never seen any one who had been a diabetic for 45 years, let alone one so healthy, but she wasn’t.I ate the meals brought to the room, and we rested as much as we could. Friends came and picked us up and took us ‘home,’ with a stop on the way to buy some liquid drink powder, meal replacement for diabetics. Poor man, he’s not supposed to eat solid food for five more days. This afternoon he goes to have the sinus packing removed. The doctor said that is the worst part, but only hurts for 3 seconds. We need to see both doctors again before we can leave Manila, in about 5-6 days. And I have this frozen meat I guess I have eat all by myself before then!I would say that the care we have received has been very good! The doctors and all the nurses were very nice and professional (other than that one lady doctor). It would have been nice to have all the tests and doctor’s appointments in one place, but that is minor. The food was okay and usually arrived in the room warm. I think most Filipinos order their food brought in by friends or from take out places, so food will probably never be high on the ‘fix it’ list for local hospitals. I would definately recommend Cardinal Santos as a good place to go if you need to be hospitalized in Manila. I think that until they pass the accreditation (in June) the prices will be lower than the other accredited hospitals.So, that’s my report! Thanks for your prayers and kind thoughts! We are still praying for a speedy recovery and no further infection.

 

Still in Manila


Thank you to all who have been thinking of us and have wished us well! We are still here and moving toward an actual surgery date. We have seen two sets of doctors (oral sureon and a rhinologist), both excellent, from our observation. We have chosen to go with the second team because their approach corresponds more closely with what we think is needed.

My husband is on some strong antibiotics to ‘quiet’ the infection before surgery and has completed his pre-surgery clearance tests. We will find out in the next day or so which hospital will be used and about how much it will cost (cringe!). Hopefully there will be only a 48 hour or less stay in the hospital. We think the surgery will be on Monday (the doctor said ‘a week’ when we saw him two days ago).

The weather has been nice and we find we can walk almost anywhere we need to go, including the doctor’s offices, here in Makati. But there is no place like home!

 

Off to Manila


We will be leaving today to go to Manila for two and a half weeks. We are hoping to see the right doctor to find a solution for a chronic infection my husband has had in his upper jaw bone for about a year and a half, even after removing the teeth. We hope to see a good oral surgeon. Someone graciously offered to let us stay in their condo in the Makati area for free! What a blessing! I will give you all an update on our medical adventures. We would apprieciate your prayers.

 

Learning About Culture


The last week we were part of a training seminar in cross-cultural conflict resolution. It was really excellent! I thought I would share some of the things we learned about culture that were really interesting.

I don’t have the illustrations to post, so you will have to use your imagination to picture the simple diagram that was used. It is four circles, each inside the other. The outside circle is ‘behavior,’ what is done; how people act, manners, customs, reactions, including the ways people try to resolve or avoid conflict. The second circle is ‘values’; what people think is good or best. The third circle is ‘beliefs,’ what is true; every culture has a belief system that gives a foundation for their values. The circle in the center is ‘world view,’ what is real. Culture is built from the inside out, with the world view being basic to beliefs, beliefs are foundational to values, values determine behaviour, and language, which is a way of thinking, is the glue that enables people in a culture to communicate.

There are three main world views. All cultures have some elements of all three, but each culture is usually dominant in one of these world views.
1. Guilt–Innocence. This kind of world view tries to move a person from guilt to innocence, which is the place where he is acceptable to himself and his community. ‘Right’ and ‘wrong’ are very important. Society declares guilt or innocence. This types of world view is often expressed by individualism since in this kind of culture, a person can decide for himself if he is right or wrong, guilty or innocent, without the community. Guilt and innocence can be determined by an internal set of principles.
2. Shame–Honor. This type of world view tries to move a person from a state of shame to one of honor, in which he is acceptable to himself and others in his community. There is a push to make him look shameful and a response that attempts to make him look honorable, particularly in the sight of his community. This type of world view often values collective (group) actions and decisions and values community, since shame and honor often require a reference in the community and the reaction of the community. Shame and honor often depend on what others think of the person.
3. Fear–Power. This type of world view attempts to move the person from fear of powers greater than himself to a position of power over these outside forces. There is a thrust–usually by powers outside of him– to cause him to fear and a response by himself to gain power over these outside force. This type of world view is often found in ‘animistic’ cultures where their view of the world fills all things outside themselves with spiritual powers which can seriously harm them. The response is ‘power objects,’ amulets and ceremonies that ‘appease’ these outside forces and give the individual power over them.

There are attributes of culture which can be used to describe differences in cultures. The words used describe points at each end of a line, so a culture can fall anywhere along this line. Think about where your culture would be located on these lines.

Time ————————————— Event
Punctuality…………………………………Details of event
Set limits…………………………………..Resolution
Schedule/goals…………………………….Come what may attitude
Rewards…………………………………….Completion
Emphasis on past/future…………………Emphasis on present

Task—————————————–Relationship
Focus on task/principles…………………..Focus on persons/relationships
Satisfaction in reaching goals…………….Satisfaction in interaction
Seeks friends with………………………….Seeks friend with group-orientation
similar task orientation

Individual————————————–Collective (Decision making)
individual decisions…………………………..Group decisions
Independent actions………………………….’all or none’ actions
Participates out of enjoyment……………….Participates out of duty
Takes initiative………………………………..Conformity to the group

Large——————————————Small (Power distance)
Separate from the people…………………..Controlled by the people
Directive………………………………………Participatory
Close supervision…………………………….Little supervision
Authoritarian………………………………….Independent
Obedience……………………………………..Discussion
No input for decisions……………………….Much input for decisions

Linear—————————————- -Matrix (Thinking)
One thing at a time…………………………..”All over the map”
Orderly………………………………………….Random
Sequential………………………………………Within boundaries
Planned………………………………………….Fortuitous
Formal…………………………………………..Casual

We can see can see these attributesas manifested in different personalities, but cultures as a whole can also have these attributes.

It is really interesting to think about the cultures we come from, and how living in a different culture from our birth culture affects our thinking and interaction. I hope you find this interesting and mentally stimulating!

 
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