Comments on: Take time to avoid the pitfalls http://liveinthephilippines.com/content/2007/12/take-time-to-avoid-the-pitfalls/ The Web Magazine for Expats in the Philippines and those who want to be Sat, 21 Nov 2009 02:47:57 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Bob http://liveinthephilippines.com/content/2007/12/take-time-to-avoid-the-pitfalls/comment-page-1/#comment-22449 Bob Wed, 19 Nov 2008 02:09:05 +0000 http://liveinthephilippines.com/bobm/?p=370#comment-22449 Hi bobby wallace- Based on what you say, I have a feeling you have never been to the Philippines before. I'd highly recommend that you come and check it out here first. If you like it, then think about moving here. Hi bobby wallace- Based on what you say, I have a feeling you have never been to the Philippines before. I’d highly recommend that you come and check it out here first. If you like it, then think about moving here.

]]> By: bobby wallace http://liveinthephilippines.com/content/2007/12/take-time-to-avoid-the-pitfalls/comment-page-1/#comment-22448 bobby wallace Wed, 19 Nov 2008 01:42:16 +0000 http://liveinthephilippines.com/bobm/?p=370#comment-22448 hi bob,there's alot of us bobs out there. i emailed you a couple of times over the past week,i really want to move to the davao area,i currently live with my wife in oklahoma,but she wants a divorce after 43 yrs of marriage. she's not the woman i married 43yrs ago,but people change. i wrote you about my medications and was worried about being able to get them there. you may or may not remember my email,i am 65 and draw $1700 a month,so i need to locate somewhere like davao,i think i can live there if i can get my meds,i read where you can't get morphine in tablet form,but i don't take morphine,so that's not a concern for me. i was telling you about my being on hydrocodone(lortabs) the generic,i am also on valium,the lortabs are a narcotic as is the morphine,here in the states i get my lortabs from the VA,i read where they have a VA location up by manila,but i'm not eligible. I wouldn't want to live anywhere close to manila,or cebu,just too expensive. i just want to live the rest of my life where i can have the basic things i need. i think you stay very busy with all your websites,i have carpal tunnel in both hands,but i don't think it would be very expensive there to get the surgery there. I can get my passport in about 2-3 wks,but i've got alot of loose ends to take care of here,i'm sure you know what i mean, but i don't want to get over there and be in pain,but i don't want to stay here under the circumstances,i'm a semi retired studio musician,i play lead guitar & bass,but don't want to get back into doing that,if i played in a band over there,i would probably have to live in cebu or manila,and from what i've read they don't pay much. well i appreciate your time and hope to see you soon. bobby hi bob,there’s alot of us bobs out there. i emailed you a couple of times over the past week,i really want to move to the davao area,i currently live with my wife in oklahoma,but she wants a divorce after 43 yrs of marriage. she’s not the woman i married 43yrs ago,but people change. i wrote you about my medications and was worried about being able to get them there. you may or may not remember my email,i am 65 and draw $1700 a month,so i need to locate somewhere like davao,i think i can live there if i can get my meds,i read where you can’t get morphine in tablet form,but i don’t take morphine,so that’s not a concern for me. i was telling you about my being on hydrocodone(lortabs) the generic,i am also on valium,the lortabs are a narcotic as is the morphine,here in the states i get my lortabs from the VA,i read where they have a VA location up by manila,but i’m not eligible. I wouldn’t want to live anywhere close to manila,or cebu,just too expensive. i just want to live the rest of my life where i can have the basic things i need. i think you stay very busy with all your websites,i have carpal tunnel in both hands,but i don’t think it would be very expensive there to get the surgery there. I can get my passport in about 2-3 wks,but i’ve got alot of loose ends to take care of here,i’m sure you know what i mean, but i don’t want to get over there and be in pain,but i don’t want to stay here under the circumstances,i’m a semi retired studio musician,i play lead guitar & bass,but don’t want to get back into doing that,if i played in a band over there,i would probably have to live in cebu or manila,and from what i’ve read they don’t pay much. well i appreciate your time and hope to see you soon. bobby

]]> By: Bob http://liveinthephilippines.com/content/2007/12/take-time-to-avoid-the-pitfalls/comment-page-1/#comment-22447 Bob Tue, 22 Apr 2008 01:54:53 +0000 http://liveinthephilippines.com/bobm/?p=370#comment-22447 Hi Chris - Thank you for visiting my site, I am happy to know that you enjoyed it and found it useful! Yes, I think that renting is very important. I am not opposed to purchasing a house, but I believe that it is a good idea to take your time and rent first. I believe that in your situation this is particularly important, so that you can have time to establish ground rules with the family, make sure that understand that you will keep things in control, etc. It is probably a matter that they just don't understand, because the needs of foreigners like us are different than Filipinos, having grown up in different cultures, etc. It appears that your thinking on this matter is sound, I just encourage you to hold your ground, and keep moving forward! You will see, it will turn out OK. Good luck! Hi Chris – Thank you for visiting my site, I am happy to know that you enjoyed it and found it useful!

Yes, I think that renting is very important. I am not opposed to purchasing a house, but I believe that it is a good idea to take your time and rent first. I believe that in your situation this is particularly important, so that you can have time to establish ground rules with the family, make sure that understand that you will keep things in control, etc. It is probably a matter that they just don’t understand, because the needs of foreigners like us are different than Filipinos, having grown up in different cultures, etc.

It appears that your thinking on this matter is sound, I just encourage you to hold your ground, and keep moving forward! You will see, it will turn out OK.

Good luck!

]]> By: Chris http://liveinthephilippines.com/content/2007/12/take-time-to-avoid-the-pitfalls/comment-page-1/#comment-22446 Chris Mon, 21 Apr 2008 10:11:25 +0000 http://liveinthephilippines.com/bobm/?p=370#comment-22446 Hi Bob, I Love the Web site and have pretty much read the entire thing. I am currently working in Iraq as an American Expat and my fiance lives not far from Gingoog City in northern Mindanao. She wants to move to Cagayan De Oro because it is easier for her to find work. I make a good living but own two properties in Florida I can't sell yet due to the housing market and a previous divorce. I really don't want to get into buying a home even though those in Pueblo De Oro look nice. My fiance is very poor and I just helped her and her family get electricity and a couple fans recently. Obviously she would like to "take care" of her family who put her through college and have been there for her but I need the real intelligence on what I should do. It seems you are 100% on rental (as I am also since it seems cheaper). God forbid, what would happen if I did build or buy and she left me after everybody was comfy in the new home. It seems like I would lose it all right? I trust her but have been "burnt before". Hi Bob,
I Love the Web site and have pretty much read the entire thing. I am currently working in Iraq as an American Expat and my fiance lives not far from Gingoog City in northern Mindanao. She wants to move to Cagayan De Oro because it is easier for her to find work. I make a good living but own two properties in Florida I can’t sell yet due to the housing market and a previous divorce. I really don’t want to get into buying a home even though those in Pueblo De Oro look nice.
My fiance is very poor and I just helped her and her family get electricity and a couple fans recently. Obviously she would like to “take care” of her family who put her through college and have been there for her but I need the real intelligence on what I should do. It seems you are 100% on rental (as I am also since it seems cheaper). God forbid, what would happen if I did build or buy and she left me after everybody was comfy in the new home. It seems like I would lose it all right? I trust her but have been “burnt before”.

]]> By: Bob http://liveinthephilippines.com/content/2007/12/take-time-to-avoid-the-pitfalls/comment-page-1/#comment-22445 Bob Wed, 12 Mar 2008 22:58:33 +0000 http://liveinthephilippines.com/bobm/?p=370#comment-22445 Hi Rick Austin - I wish you the best, my friend! Hi Rick Austin – I wish you the best, my friend!

]]> By: Rick Austin http://liveinthephilippines.com/content/2007/12/take-time-to-avoid-the-pitfalls/comment-page-1/#comment-22444 Rick Austin Wed, 12 Mar 2008 18:12:25 +0000 http://liveinthephilippines.com/bobm/?p=370#comment-22444 Bob, You may be right. Have not had any problems withthe in laws yet and keeping my fingers crossed. But after 31 years of marriage I expect the good relations to keep going. Rick Bob,

You may be right. Have not had any problems withthe in laws yet
and keeping my fingers crossed. But after 31 years of marriage I
expect the good relations to keep going.

Rick

]]> By: Bob http://liveinthephilippines.com/content/2007/12/take-time-to-avoid-the-pitfalls/comment-page-1/#comment-22443 Bob Tue, 11 Mar 2008 22:35:34 +0000 http://liveinthephilippines.com/bobm/?p=370#comment-22443 Rick Austin - I personally feel that living so near your wife's family will come back to bit you in the long run. We are all different, though. Rick Austin – I personally feel that living so near your wife’s family will come back to bit you in the long run. We are all different, though.

]]> By: Rick Austin http://liveinthephilippines.com/content/2007/12/take-time-to-avoid-the-pitfalls/comment-page-1/#comment-22442 Rick Austin Tue, 11 Mar 2008 21:12:03 +0000 http://liveinthephilippines.com/bobm/?p=370#comment-22442 Guess I've been lucky. We decided years ago that we would retire to PI and live in the area the wife grew up (she actually bought and owned land there before we even met). As far as the houses, she went home for 6 months in 1999 and built a house in Legaspi City and then in 2006 she built another on the small island of Rapu-Rapu after that was completed she made a quick trip back to the states and got me and as they say the rest is history. Rick Guess I’ve been lucky. We decided years ago that we would retire
to PI and live in the area the wife grew up (she actually bought and owned land there before we even met). As far as the houses, she went
home for 6 months in 1999 and built a house in Legaspi City and then in
2006 she built another on the small island of Rapu-Rapu after that was completed she made a quick trip back to the states and got me and as
they say the rest is history.

Rick

]]> By: Bob http://liveinthephilippines.com/content/2007/12/take-time-to-avoid-the-pitfalls/comment-page-1/#comment-22441 Bob Wed, 13 Feb 2008 23:33:22 +0000 http://liveinthephilippines.com/bobm/?p=370#comment-22441 Hi Phil - It sounds like you have a wonderful life in Northern Mindanao! I congratulate you for that! Hi Phil – It sounds like you have a wonderful life in Northern Mindanao! I congratulate you for that!

]]> By: phil http://liveinthephilippines.com/content/2007/12/take-time-to-avoid-the-pitfalls/comment-page-1/#comment-22440 phil Wed, 13 Feb 2008 22:19:59 +0000 http://liveinthephilippines.com/bobm/?p=370#comment-22440 Hi Bob .... Phil here ...been there done that , first year i was in the pines we rented a small apartment by the bay in bon-bon-cagayan de oro ...like everything else the price started to go up so when the landlord said we had to move cause his brother was out of work and needed a place to stay ..we moved into the squatters area and paid 6000 a month rent .2 rooms and a cr ... That is when we decited to build a home of our own,we got some land cheap outside of talisa just east of gingoog ctiy ..I didn't bring no extras to make my life easier if my wife said we don't need it we didn't get it ,but we have a tv and electric .I enjoy it too i like cooking outside ..and i wouldn't change it .. Hi Bob …. Phil here …been there done that , first year i was in the pines we rented a small apartment by the bay in bon-bon-cagayan de oro …like everything else the price started to go up so when the landlord said we had to move cause his brother was out of work and needed a place to stay ..we moved into the squatters area and paid 6000 a month rent .2 rooms and a cr … That is when we decited to build a home of our own,we got some land cheap outside of talisa just east of gingoog ctiy ..I didn’t bring no extras to make my life easier if my wife said we don’t need it we didn’t get it ,but we have a tv and electric .I enjoy it too i like cooking outside ..and i wouldn’t change it ..

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