I am writing for LIP since almost one and a half years. I am glad and honored to be able to do so. During the last months I received a lot of emails – mostly from LIP readers asking many questions about the life in the Philippines. Several readers clicked on some of my blogrolls… and so on and so on.
Some email senders told me many personal stories and asked me, if I could publish them here on my blog. Up to now I really hesitated to do so, because I thought it’s really to personal and LIP might not be the appropriate place for it.
After having lunch with Bob (and Feyma, as well as two other expat friends from Australia and Israel) in my house last Sunday, I talked with Bob about this very special case. Bob agreed immediately that I might publish the following “cry for help”:
LOST SON
Almost two weeks ago I received the first email (half in English – half in German) from a certain Mrs. Rowena Reams. She told me, that she is a Filipina national and asked me to find out more about the whereabouts of her son named JOHN RENE BUSS. John is 25 years of age now and will turn to 26 at the 3rd of March. The last known residence of him should have been somewhere near or in Iloilo.
Rowena emailed me:
“I’ll appreciate if you can help me to find him. I have been crying myself to sleep ever since I lost contact with him. I beg you to please help me. I just need to know that he is doing well and, if he needs my help – he might want to know my address.”
I really don’t know the backgrounds of this story – but it really touched my heart. I haven’t go the heart just to ignore Rowena’s emails. Well, I hope Rowena will find her lost son. I am sure, while I also hope and pray, that some one read this short story here in LIP. Kindly contact me, I will happily forward any information about Rowena’s lost son’s whereabouts to her.
Thank you very much and God bless!
About Klaus
Kraus,
For what reason did the lady lose contaxt with her son and for how long has the son been lost to her?
Justin
Maybe he doesn’t want to see his mom ? maybe her family don’t like her choice of soul mate ? ..alot of maybe’s? Klaus.. .. Is this SIR in action ..? I hope she find him no matter what the trouble is , a worried mother is hard to live with……Phil n Jess
Hi Justin, I am not sure about the reasons – but she lost contact with her son already several years ago. I know that Rowena is a regular reader of LIP. She might add more information here by leaving a comment if she likes… .
Hi Phil n Jess, yeah, maybe you right… .On the other side I also would agree with you, that a worried mother has really a hard life… .
As a Mom of three young men I think that she needs to know no matter what the reason “where her son is or how he is doing” Even if he didn’t want to contact her someone could say how they know him to be health wise to give her heart peace.
Hello Klaus,
Even if son is for whatever reason angry at her I still truly hope the lady can find him so that she at least will know he is alive and well.
Btw, Why doesnt she hire a private detective as there are some guys in Philippines who specialize finding people who may not even wish to be found.
Justin
Hi Shirley, thanks for stopping by. You are very right in everything was you said. I wish someone, who reads this, will tell Rowena about her son’s whereabouts… .
Hi thanks for dropping by again. I would strongly agree with you. Regarding the second paragraph: of course, it’s Rowena’s decision, if she likes to try it.
Hi Klaus,
Has Rowena mentioned if his son is married or closely connected to a woman? A young man his age could easily be making decisions to change his present life situation – it is called growing up.
Marcelina
I meant her son, Rowena’s.
every mother has a right to her son daughter where abouts in this world no matter what she gave life cared for them and loved like amother should and does you can grow up some time in you still need your parents life is short.
Maybe they have had a big fight or misunderstanding with his family, otherwise he doesn’t want to see them anymore, that we didn’t know what is the big reason why his gone!!!! because Rowena didn’t mentioned anything,,,,,Anyhow,,, we can’t help her to find her son, but we can help her through prayer’s,,, its really hard to find someone who doesn’t want to show you, its hard to become a mom who losing her son that she didn’t know whereabout,…..
to all concerned about my plight and wondering about what happened to my family…please understand that i cannot publish the whole story in respect for my son and my sons’ father who still has a place in my heart no matter what has been said and done. by now i am sure my son is not in favor of his mom because he has’nt heard my side. please try to feel for a mom who is in the middle of wanting to explain her side and tell her son the truth and trying to keep the truth from him as to avoid ruining his father’s image. all i know is, that no matter how old and mature a son or daughter is, it is the mother’s natural right to worry about them and to yearn to find out that they are in the best of health and doing good. thank you anyway for all the concern. it is very rare nowadays that people would care for each other, but please if anyone can help me. i am no situation now to hire a detective, but once i get a job, i have thought of the idea. the german embassy could give me no information about them, but i am sure the philippine bureau of immigration can. if only someone from the b.i. would have a heart and help me.
herr klaus, vielen dank nochmals fuer diese grosse hilfe. ich hoffe ehrich das jemand mich helfen kann durch ihre “site” hier. die wahrheit ist das mein ehemaligen mann mein jungste son kindergeldschicken muss und vielleicht daswegen will er seine jeztzigen addresse nicht weggeben will. er hatte das mit seine tochter von seine erste frau auch getan. und daswegen wolte ich das hier nicht schreiben. alles gute.
just to make it clear, i understand that my son, john rene buss is now an adult who has a right to whatever he chooses to do and i would be the last person to dictate his life because i respect this. my wish though is just to be able to know that he is doing fine. let me ask you, as a mother, do i have to live the rest of my life wondering if my son is warm at night, had an accident, had acquired some deadly disease or is very very lonely? the same baby i powdered, i almost died worrying for when he had bronchial pneumonia as he was 2 months old, who broke my heart when a girlfriend broke his heart when he was 8 years old, same 2 year old i had to mince his every meal for him to be able to swallow. at nigiht before i close my eyes, i always have this image of him as a scrawny young man addicted to drugs, or a knife stuck on his back. he just flew to manila from germany november of 2007 and is new to his surroundings……same baby in my tummy when i used to sit near the record player while it played swanlake by tschaikowsky so that he might hear it and feel good inside me. he is my first baby and i just need to know he’s ok.
oh god up there, please send me an angel with good news that my son is doing well!
hello rowena still remember catherine from muntinlupa,well i can understand your dilemma because i’m also a mother now,and we both know who rene is, hey you forgot his b-date it’s march 23 not march 3,so you lost contact with him,since when?i hope you’ll find him soon and and even if we had some misunderstanding before,well… we used to be friends,besides it’s been a long long time.things are different now right?I wish you well and maybe you’ll find him soon,rene,here’s my yahoo i.d catherinemalaca_17@yahoo.com anytime you need a friend…
herr klaus,
there is a catherine from muntinlupa who wrote you and was correcting me about my son’s birthday. how can i forget my first son’s birthday!?!? it’s quite ridiculous. i still have his original birth and his baptismal cerificates with me. i am worried your readers might think i am some kind of “rabenmutter” to have forgotten my son’s birthday which is march 23, 1983. that which appeared on your site might have been some typographical error on my part or yours. i still have his original birth and his baptismal cerificates with me and treasure his pictures. i hope your readers would not think the worst of me because of someone’s comment. thank you.
Hi Marcelina, thanks for dropping by. You really mentioned an interesting fact. No, Rowena didn’t tell this. Anyway, I wish she might add some personal thoughts in a comment some day. It would really help to find her lost son.
Hi Larry, you might be very right – and I also would like to agree with you very strongly… but, sometimes “life goes different ways” – like in this case. Honestly, I would have been more happier, if the mother Rowena and/or her lost son lost a comment here… . Larry, thanks for stopping by…
Hi Elen, yeah, maybe you are very right. As a matter of fact, Rowena didn’t mention some more facts. Sure, we can help them with our prayers – and, this post will not be deleted – and, God knows: maybe, even after couple of weeks or months some one read this… . Elen, thank you for dropping by!
Hi Rowena Reams, I can feel with you. I hope and wish, that you have success. I know that the staff of the German Embassy, Manila as well as from the Bureau of Immigration are regular visitors of LIP. I would suggest, to contact especially the B.I. in Manila. All the best for you and God bless!
Hi Catherine, thanks for leaving your comment here. i appreciate it very much… God bless.
Hi Rowena, I think there is nothing to worry about. Anyway, thanks for your additional comment and good luck… .
but it’s really obvious that the birhtdate written in the add is march 3,not march 23, so obviously it must be a typographical error, the girls just trying to help,not trying to confuse anybody,and people will not think of you as a rabenmutter,but will think of trying to help you
Hi Chello, thanks a lot. I haven’t even notice that error. Of course, this article has been posted to help… .