I’m writing about relationships here in the Philippines. I’m really talking about the extended family aside from your wife and your kids. Most readers and followers here on LiP are foreigners (male or female) married to Filipina or Filipino. I will make an example my husband Bob, when he married me he never thought of having to know all of my relatives. Believe me, its way too much for his brain to remember all the members of my family who are close to me. I had to remind him a lot of times who I was talking about or who I was introducing him to. It really gets confusing to him. Lots of time we just kind of laugh it off. LOL
When we got married I introduced Bob to all my siblings, theirs 7 of us. He remembers all of them and their significant others. The confusion begins when I introduced him to my nieces/nephews (my nieces/nephews range from my age down to teens). So in short some of my nieces and nephews were married at a young age even younger than me. So here in the Philippines if our nieces/nephews will have babies, those kids will already be our grand kids. We have a few grand kids that come to our house. Those kids are the daughters of our nieces. Really in the USA those kids were really our “grand nieces”. Those girls should be “first cousin one generation removed” or “first cousin once removed” with my kids. That said according to this website: If you have a hard time following just study the diagram that they sampled there.
When Aaron saw his grandfather’s side of the family, his great uncles and aunt were tracing how Aaron is related to their grand kids. Same thing happened when he visited his grandmother’s side of the family in Port Townsend, they were also talking about family history. Aaron at the end got so confused and he told them, hey I’m just going to follow the Filipino way. It’s much easier for me to remember. Ha ha ha… Of course he had me to figure it all out for him. LOL
I think with Bob living here in the Philippines for a long time, I think he is just adopting the Filipino way already. I didn’t ask him though, but I think he agrees with Aaron it’s much easier to figure it out here. Ha ha ha… He doesn’t mind being called GramPa by those grand kids of ours. He is just so happy seeing those kids. One of them comes over here at the house almost every weekend. She will call him on Viber a few times a week. She will text good night to us. She’s just a joy to be with. Honestly there was a story behind it. That girl is really special to us. She was staying with us when she was a baby. I think the connection was still there when she was away for years and years. She really likes to stay with us here now. She comes to GramPa’s office and talks and made jokes. Problem is, she usually speaks in Tagalog, sometimes GramPa had a hard time understanding with Tagalog.
Are you trying to figure it out too of your relationship to your next of kin? Hope it gets easier for you. :-). Good luck and have fun with your family.