I really don’t know about other Filipina women but I like foreigners more than the Filipino male species. He he. Maybe it’s just me. I’m weird. I’ll definitely admit that. Weird in a good way. I don’t have that kind of spark, or that kind of kick that ignites passion out of Filipino men. I find them bland and boring.
I’ve never had any relationship with Filipino men. I’ve gone on few dates. Nothing serious. But it’s enough for me to realize why I really will not end up with a Filipino. I don’t want to anyway. I don’t see myself being with one. They don’t really have the same kind of personality that foreigners have.
I’m so shameless, forgive me. I hope I don’t get flack for this. Ha ha.
Even though my previous relationship ended up in failure (fault not mine, thank you very much!), there are reasons why foreign men are better than Filipino men. In the same manner that there are plenty of reasons why many foreigners prefer Filipino women instead of their own. Well I hope they’re good reasons and not just because of something else. I mean , what do expats like about Filipino women anyway?
In my case, I like foreigners. I’m going to focus more on western men. I used to be involved with one anyway.
So what makes me think they are better? It’s mostly personality issues. Characteristics differ so much from that of Filipino men. I find the foreigners to be more easy going, more conversant, more knowledgeable, more worldly, more cultured, more adventurous, more daring, more fun, more loving. Just more of everything. Am I so wrong?
A failed relationships with American taught me they are probably bunch of schmucks! But I still find them much better than Filipino men. Maybe appealing is more of the term. And as much as I like them, I’m not going to elevate foreigners into some kind of Mr. Perfect because hell, who is perfect after all. If everything is like that, then I might as well get involve with a robot!
I know that to compare is bad (okay, I’m bad), but I will do so.
Foreigners are more relaxed, easy going, and conversant. I always like to have that intellectually stimulating conversation. Nothing so scholarly type but I can talk about the arts or politics, even business and just about anything and it still would be one heck of conversation. My ex wasn’t really all that glib (neither am I) but hey, there is flow of conversation. With the Filipino men, what are we supposed to talk about? Basketball?
They share more. They help more. Not my family. I’ve never had to ask for any help concerning money. Even without parents, I manage to live comfortably with siblings. What I’m trying to point out, when a foreigner gets involved and marries a Filipina, he is marrying her family too. More often than not, that’s the case. I’m not so sure how Filipino men are when comes to giving and sharing money to girlfriend’s family or wife’s family. I bet complaints will be heard. Although I know some foreigners may find it annoying, they at least help out and it’s a nice gesture. I think that’s why Foreigners are more endearing to most Filipino women.
They are more cultured and worldly. Correct? They know more about other things and of life and living somewhere else. And I like that. Learning from your partner is important. Whether it’s the little tidbits about the farm in Iowa, or the great depression that plagued the US. The Best wine in Napa Valley, or Paris, France. What ‘The Mall’ is. You get what I mean? I get more knowledge and learn a a lot more. With the Filipino men, I’m not sure.
They are are more adventurous, more daring. They are brave when it comes to trying out something new. They take the risk. Sometimes, you need to do that in order to find out the consequences. Of course, not all foreigners are like that. Some have calculated moves and plans, but generally, that’s how I see them. Maybe I am mistaken? Filipino men meanwhile still rely and depend on their mothers for a lot of things. Even if they are well beyond their years. I just think. My brother in law comes to mind. Ha ha.
More fun and more loving. Are they? With the right one I’m sure that will be the case. The four years I’ve had with my ex boyfriend was okay. I don’t have any superlatives to add because it wasn’t really that fun and loving. Although he was generous and we would always go out and he’d treat my nieces and nephews, There were times when it was just like that. I just go through the motions. But mostly it was just ho hum. Then he went back to the US.
So that last one was downer. But even with that, I still find Americans better than their Filipino male counterpart. I wonder if I’m right. I know I am. It’s how I feel anyway.
Gosh, too much of me, myself and I. Turned out okay. He he. Thanks for indulging.
A Filipino. Living and working in Manila. Has a soft spot for expats. Always have an opinion about anything and everything.