Today, we have a guest article from Maria Luisa Villaflor. Maria Luisa has some things to share on the topic of a relationship between a Flipina and a Foreigner. Thank you for your contribution, Maria, we appreciate it very much. MindanaoBob
A Filipina beauty is such a magnetic charm that can make a foreign guy fall in love in a minute. It has been proven in many ways that a Filipina charm is a unique charm that can make a white guy get lost his mind and go crazy without thinking he is already proposing a marriage after a week or a month of dating . Likewise, a Filipina can also fall in love easily to any white guys, old, young , good looking or fairly handsome, doesn’t really matter sometimes, all white guys are handsome for us.
I myself has a failed relationship with a white man, got two children from him, the first two years of our marriage was full of sweetness and happy moments , we do things together with full of joy in our hearts, but after 5 years, things started to change slowly , our relationship started to crack down and shook our world into 2 different ways. We separated in the end.
Many things to consider and understand about 2 cultures joining together which are totally different world from each other. I myself married an American guy, at first glance, I took my chances, dreaming to have a wonderful relationship and marriage .First two years was brightly happy days for both of us, when kids start to get in the way then those happy moments has began to change. Actually children was not the reason for our failed marriage, it was the cultural differences, I was not open to him as I am now, I was not telling him how I felt when I feel unhappy or disturbed about something. I almost never share with him my problems with my relatives when they asked me for some help, he would just ignore me anyways, when I tell him somebody in my family need help because they are sick obviously he would not mind, this is one scenario that made our differences gets in the way to a happy and fulfilling relationship between me and ex- husband .
Before getting into a relationship or planning to marry a Filipina, make sure you have all the key points to understand the whole culture including this extended family system. It means a white man who wants to marry a Filipina will need to understand the whole system, often times, when the member of the family of a Filipina wife ask help for some reasons, then the guy need to consider or say no. If no then it could cause some kind of ugly arguments about money, then sweetness starts to sour in the relationship.
Don’t jump right away, my advice is, if you are planning to have a lasting and endless love, try to visit Philippines a couple of times before pushing the trigger to marriage. I am sure Filipina woman has an everlasting Love in their hearts specially when they treated like a woman by their man.
Maria Luisa Villaflor is a guest writer here on the Live in the Philippines Web Magazine.