If you’ve been following my articles, then you know that I have met, pursued and managed to use the U.S. immigration system to bring my fiancée to the United States. She arrived on December 24, 2009. Just in time for Christmas!
We spend the day with family, as I usually would have, only it was better. My fiancée at my side, and both of us happy to be together once again!
The U.S. K1 visa(also called a fiancée visa) is used to bring someone that you wish to marry, into the United States. The visa is good for 90 days. At which time, if you are not married, she is considered an illegal alien.(No, not from space) But, she would then be breaking federal laws which would mandate her immediate return to the Philippines. This means, of course, that we need to get married. The dreaded “M”. I would like to take the time, at this point, to inform you that I was single. Never married. Scared to death of marriage, and what usually followed… DIVORCE. But, with my choice in life, I had no reservations! She was the one I wanted, and I would fight to get her, and I would fight to keep her! We would be together!!! I WAS DETERMINED!!
So, if Christmas was this good, then New Years was even better!!! We became legally married in a civil service at the court house not too far from our home on December 31, 2009. Two dates that have meant a lot to me, and many others around the world for centuries, and now, they have even more importance. More meaning. More… everything!! Plus, I should be able to remember them! LOL!
Being a man, I know that the wedding of most women(American, and other s) is the most important day in their lives to that point. Some start to plan it from the time they are children. They envision what it will be like, who will be there, what their dress will look like, the foods they will serve, the music, the first dance, the father –daughter dance…. EVERYTHING. I don’t believe my wife planned on getting married in a simple dress in a court house. I wanted to give her that dream as best as I could though, so we did plan a little ahead. Before she left the Philippines, I sent her money so that she could have the gown of her dreams made to her specifications, and she could bring it here. Why? Because I love my wife. Plain and simple. And I want her to be happy.
May 2010 we were married in church, with our family and friends(minus those that could not attend) in a lovely wedding that we planned together. It was, I felt, very nice and a touching moment in my life. I don’t cry much, but I have to admit, weddings kill me.
So, as a man, this brings yet another date I MUST remember!! Seriously? Ok, we need to pick a wedding date and stick with one!! I can’t do two, not to mention, to celebrations, and extra wedding gifts! Just kidding. My wife is not like that. She would like me to remember the date, but she doesn’t expect anything on EVERY anniversary. She is a wonderful wife, and I am happy we were married.
So, now come the fun part(sarcasm)… more paperwork!! Guess what? We need to change her visa from a K1 to resident visa! It’s not just the paperwork, but why does this cost so much? There can’t possibly be this much cost in doing the paperwork!!! Change of visa status and check submitted, and bank account decreased by about $1000. Man… is she worth that much money? Ok… I joke a lot about this, and everyone needs to know that this is ONLY A JOKE! My wife thinks it’s funny too, so if you’re offended, please relax, breathe and read on.
Did I mention I’m cheap? Well, frugal. I look at things logically, and try to avoid paying where it isn’t necessary. To make a point, while waiting for my wife to come to the U.S. I looked into cakes for the wedding. I wanted a nice big one, with a cool husband and wife statue that would be nice enough to use as a house decoration. So… I checked into them at cake stores. $1,500 to $2,000!! When I came to and looked up from the floor, I thought… how can I make this cheaper? So, I took cake decorating classes every week for months. By the end, I knew enough to make our five tiered wedding cake. And.. it was delicious!! I was determined to have one that not only looked good, but tasted good too!! Wedding cake – Lessons: $150; Supplies: $200; look on everyone’s faces that I made it: Priceless!
I think I’ll continue next time with my transition to where we are now. So, until then, paalam, ingat, and God bless!
At the time of this writing, I am 40 years old. I’ve been married to my Filipina wife since December 2009. She is from the Province of Pangasinan, Philippines. I was born and raised in the Metro Detroit area in Michigan. I’ve worked in many fields throughout my short career, mostly in Architecture, computers, and law enforcement. I’m medically retired from the U.S. Government due to a back injury and look forward to our move to the Philippines. My interests here were yard work, guns, and hanging out with friends. But because of my back injury, I’ve had to shorten what I can do to just hanging out with friends. Not a bad thing when you’re retired, right!? Also, I’m sure I’ll find some new interests when I get to the RP. We don’t yet know where we will be moving to exactly, but I expect it to be on the main island of Luzon. I look forward to moving there, getting healthier, and experiencing island life.