And they lived happily ever after…
In a very old issue of PHILADELPHIA NEWS columnist Larry Fields confessed:”I lead a life of wine, women and song (by the way, that’s a wonderful waltz by the King of Waltzes Johann Strauss)- it’s cheaper than petrol, food and rent!” Mmh…
Some marriages are made in heaven. You know some? Me too! The best of the rest is down-to-earth! Maybe it’s yours? Down-to-earth. Good.
You remember this:”Then the prince swept away the lovely young maiden into his arms and carried her home to his castle. And they live happily ever after!” Indeed, they did.
What I would like to see is an autonomous in home affairs study of all these title of mobility bearers seven years after their happily-ever-after marriages. Or even earlier, because the so-called darned and tricky seventh marriage year could be even the first or second one.
The truth is that life isn’t made up of the continual highs found in the initial stages of courtship. Of course, flirting is fun and a wide groove existing. But after a while our system needs a rest. Unanimously we’re in the second stage or later in our marriage life.It needs badly a new outside coating.
All of a sudden the partner wants you day and night prefers watching the sports channel i.e., falls asleep while you’re revealing your innermost secrets and even forgets the anniversary of the first time ever he or she saw your face. Just bear in mind: “You’ve won each other’s acceptance, and sometimes even feeling terrible gloomy, this acceptance shouldn’t be undervalued.
Even we see a house that has to be cleaned, many other things have to be organized and the partner, who looks as fatigued and bored as you feel. Logical question, “That’s it?”" Or, “This was it?”
And suddenly we experienced the third stage and learn, why it’s worth the ups and downs. Maybe we men don’t tell anymore, how incredible “she” looks, but we enjoy bleating and grousing at her spending innumerable hours putting herself together. But then suddenly we men are able to unload the garbage without being asked.
Maybe “she” doesn’t have the newspaper and the slippers waiting “for him” (is “he” really so fragile?), but “she” asks about “his” day in the office and is really interested in responses.
Although no marriage is continually blissful, it can be pretty good most of the time. When we lasted through arguments, money worries, and kid’s problems (also or especially in “Foreign-Filipina/Filipino marriages”, or slowly but surely coming up midlife crises, THEN we should facew reality that our relationship is not always the “12th of June” (Philippine Independence Day) or the “3rd of October” (Germany’s Day of United) .
It’s because the fundamental reason of a marriage has outlasted the craziness of day-to-day-living: we love each other. Mmh, that’s my idea of “Happily Ever After, Indeed!”
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How to contract a legal marriage in the Philippines between German and Filipino nationals “next time” in this blog in German. If you have questions, please don’t hesitate to leave your comments.
Wie man legal und korrekt auf den Philippinen eine deutsch-philippinische Ehe schliesst, koennen Sie demnaechst hier lesen. Die Gesetze und Vorschriften aendern sich permanent. Sollten Sie spezielle Fragen haben, hinterlassen Sie doch einfach Ihren Kommentar.
A very good post! We have been married for 38 years, and find long term marriage to be a good, comfortable, comforting and wonderful thing. Yes, after a while you realize you are not going to change the other person, but hopfully, about the same time, you realize that you aren’t such a great bargain yourself!
Long term love is about accepting imperfections and supporting each other’s weakness. Covering for each other. Together, we make a really good thing, much better than one of us alone. A definition of love that I really like is “Always affirming the best in the beloved.”
Hi Klaus,
This is a first time post to your blog but not the first to the overall “Live In The Philippines” blog. Hope that makes sense! Anyhow thought I’d post a piece called “Passages of Marriage” taken from a book/website called “Taking Charge of your Life”.
1/ Young Love: the first 2 years.
This is a time for choices: Lifestyle, money, management, how many children and when.
2/ Realistic Love: years 3 - 10
The early excitement has faded. Expectations based on the different backgrounds of both partners, begin to surface.
3/ Comfortable Love: years 11 - 25
The comfort passage - this period shapes the future quality of the marriage relationship.
4/ Renewing Love: years 26 - 35
The storms and challenges of life are taking their toll. The friendship developed needs to be renewed.
5/ Transcendent Love: years 36 to ………..
Transcendent love is a profound and peaceful perspective toward each other and life itself.
Sadly for me, my wife of 28+ years was taken by death and it was just as we were beginning to renew our friendship as well (just like number 4 points out). The good news is that my wife had excepted Jesus Christ in her life before her passing and that gives me great hope.
Hi American Lola, congrats to you and your husband. My wife and me looking forward 25th Silver Anniversary in a few months. Happy trip to you and your husband. Before we got a brown out here in Davao City, I read your last post. May your husband get well soon.God bless.
Hi Richard, thank you so much for your heartily testimony. We should all expected and accepted Jesus Christ in our life. No matter, where we are living… God bless