Love and Marriage
Falling in love is very easy. But is it really love or just an inexplicable enthusiasm, which ends in all sorts of problems?
Love and marriage: how correct and applicable is the lyric of Frank Sinatra’s song. “Go together like a horse and carriage… you can’t have one without another… it’s an institute you can’t disparage… try to seperate them, it’s an illusion…!”
Really???
Suppose there was no love in this world today and before: would be people happy? Would they be having families and children? Certainly not. And by the way, I am so sad to see what happens with our children in the whole world. Do we love them?
Back to the topic: love is something that affects everyone deeply. For me it’s one of the greatest power on earth. It’s hard to explain, perhaps we can start defining love as an emotion. Usually we are attracted by the way a person acts, looks or speaks. Sometimes we say; “That’s my type!” Here, we are concerned with romantic love, a love between two people…
Sometimes “love is blind and lovers cannot see”… .There can be instances when we fail to see the bad points in the beloved. It’s normal to look always at his/her positive side.
Many years ago while staying in Quezon City i remember a billboard along E. Rodriquez Boulevard proclaiming: “Think positive and you’ll never have ulcers!” I like that.
Actually, love is not blind. Maybe only at the beginning. Love can truly see all the wonderful qualities in a human being - also the negative sides. If we know how to open our eyes and cure our blindness, even being so much in love, then we might be able to see the positive and negative in a wonderful and radiant light.
Love usually ends in marriage. Can there be marriage without love? Certainly, if one takes the partner for the sake of money, fame or power. Marriage without love could also be achieved by pressure, force or deception.
However, at this writing, I also observed changes in societies worldwide, and sad to say, also in the Philippines. Watch out for American Lola’s great article about foreigners in the Philippines and money.
And then? Can you count how many articles have been published worldwide about divorce?Divorce or separating appear just like a privilege or a new beginning. But mostly all the old mistakes have been repeated and the acts of adultery are simply superficial. Don’t misinterpret me: I’m not talking about important marriage annulments, which had been always discussed also in the Philippines by the Canon Law Society of the Philippines or in mentor’s book “Judicial procedures on Psychological Incapacity” (Hermogenes E. Bacareza, Manila) or Tulabing’s “A comparative Study on Legal Separation Under the 1983 Code of Canon Law and the Family Code of the Philippines”.
One partner says to his beloved, “I can never live without you in this world and I will pluck all the stars in heaven to make a agarland for you!” A dream???
I am glad and happy to celebrate my 25th Silver Wedding Anniversary next month.
Love makes the world go round…Hey Klaus! congratulations because you will be celebrating your 25th silver wedding anniversary. God bless you always!
congrats !
Hi Cidy and Athena, thanks for stopping by and thanks for the nice greetings.
Hi Klaus,
Congratulations on your Twenty Fifth Wedding Anniversary. A remarkable achievement. Your great posts cover history, philosophy, human nature et al; but, today’s post convinces me you should write more on that special relationship between two people who think they should be together forever and those who took a chance and years later, wonder what were they thinking. I personally have been happily divorced for almost thirty years. I know I am in the minority. But, love and marriage do go together. As most people here at LIP have found their ways here because of love and marriage, your insights would be invaluable. Especially difficult
are relationships where differing countries, cultures, languages, traditions and reigions have overwhelming influences. You have the knowledge born of experience–wisdom, Klaus, you have it. Please share it with us. Thank you.
Karen-
Hi Karen, thanks for stopping by and for all your nice words. Yeah, Maybe I could write more about it even my colleagues here in LiP did it already many times in the past. Just check out the articles of American Lola, Bob and Feyma. But I am sure, I will find again time to write about this topic, because it can’t be mentioned enough, especially if the ex pats are living here in the Philippines with their Philippine partner. So, you are happily divorced. Of course you can also find this here in the Philippines, or call it annulment. I met already a lot of couples who went thru this process.
Hi Klaus,
Congratulations to you and Rose!!! That is really awesome, especially for a couple from different races/cultures. It is proof enough that love conquers all. You are a living example that mixed marriages do work! It is very inspiring. All the best to you and Rose!
BTW, are you doing the traditional Filipino Silver Wedding celebration? - renewal of vows in church, silver-themed reception, etc.? This is a big deal, you know, people go all out to celebrate it. On the other hand, some choose to keep it quiet and go away for another honeymoon…
I think I’ll have both when the time comes. 9 more years to go… 
Hi Tina, thanks a lot for stopping by and for your good wishes. Thanks also, that we “are inspiring”. of course, every couple has ups and downs, but as we have said in an interview before: our most valuable companion is GOD. - Regarding your questions: it will be a mixture of Traditional Filipino AND German celebration, BTW also one important thing in interracial marriage life: keep both cultures always alive… - Good luck for you Tina and your husband. I am sure, nine years is not a long time for you both anymore…