I am writing this post upon seeing what John wrote about his friend Harold. We meet Harold a few weeks ago. He is really a nice person. It was really a pleasure meeting him. I am shocked of what he went through. I really wish him all the best. He deserves to have a good life. I am really impressed on how he works hard to make his life better.
Talking about helping others. We helped niece. Bob and I started helping her since she was in grade school, we were still living in the States at that time. When we moved to live here in the Philippines we decided to get her and let her stay with us in our house. She was in high school then. When time for college came, Bob and I wanted what’s best for her and we sent her to Ateneo De Davao University. The best school in Mindanao. She wanted to take up nursing, so we let her study nursing, since thats what she wanted. When school started for her freshmen year she’s really good girl and didn’t get in trouble. That time she had good classmates and good friends to be with. Usually they would hang out at our house, they played on our trampoline with our kids, played computer, X-box or went biking around our neighborhood. We really like her friends. Sometimes on Saturdays Bob wanted me to give her money so that she can take her classmates out for coffee. We did that because we love her and because she didn’t gave us headache. Gosh when she’s in her sophomore year that was the time we started to have problems with her. She’s starting to come home later than she should. If I asked her why she’s late in coming home she would just tell me that her and her classmates are making projects and we believed her. By the second semester in her sophomore year that’s when it’s getting pretty bad. One time she asked me if she could come home late like 11pm and I said its okay because she has some projects to do with her classmates. The next day I asked her what time did she gets home? She told me around 11. I was starting to have doubts on her, though. She didn’t know that I was going to ask the guard at the gate at our subdivision, she forgot that they have a logbook. Well, when I asked the guard they told me she got in around 1:45am, she was shocked that I asked the guard. Bob and I were mad then. We talked to her and she said she was sorry and won’t do it again. It started to be a routine for her to come home late at night. Whenever she was off school she won’t even help our people clean the house, instead she wants the helpers to clean her room. She’s so tired to help. We then decided to cut back on her allowance from P200 per day down to P150 a day.
Later when it was really getting worse to the point that she came home one night drunk and some of the buttons of her blouse was open I was upset. So Bob and I finally told her that we would let her stop going to school for a year and she has to help work in our business and also do some work at our house. So Bob gave her 4 options 1)To stay here with us and help us, 2) To go back to her parents house and help them in the farm, 3) To go live with my sister and mom, 4) Move out from our house and find job and we will pay 2 months for her food and rent while looking for job. She chose the last option. She thought that when she moved out all her friends would still stay with her, well they didn’t. A week after moving out from our house most of her friends left her. They abandoned her because she didn’t have the money that she used to have anymore. Very sad. Well that was a year and half ago.
Well, last April she showed up in our doorstep. She had baby already. Everybody was shocked that she had baby already. She told us she learned her lesson and I think she did. We really love the baby. We talked to our niece for a long time. She wanted to go back to school, so we decided to give her second chance and we gave her job with pay at our business and were even babysitting so that she can just save up and go back to school. So that she can go back to school quickly we gave her more hours to work so that in a year or so she can finish up her degree and have good job and the baby will have good future. We were really disappointed to find out that she decided not to work anymore. We talked to her again and told her we did this so that her and the baby will have good future together. She wants that we will just send her again to school like before. Not gonna happen. I don’t think so. We asked her if the father of the baby would pay her school? She told us NO, he doesn’t have the money. She’s mad right now, she doesn’t even want us to see the baby. We are hurting for the baby. I just hope that my niece will realize someday that everything we did for her because we love her.