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I’m writing about relationships here in the Philippines. I’m really talking about the extended family aside from your wife and your kids. Most readers and followers here on LiP are foreigners (male or female) married to Filipina or Filipino. I will make an example my husband Bob, when he married me he never thought of having to know all of my relatives. Believe me, its way too much for his brain to remember all the members of my family who are close to me. I had to remind him a lot of times who I was talking about or who I was introducing him to. It really gets confusing to him. Lots of time we just kind of laugh it off. LOL

Gramd[a Bpb wotj Sharmaine

Gramd[a Bpb wotj Sharmaine

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When we got married I introduced Bob to all my siblings, theirs 7 of us. He remembers all of them and their significant others. The confusion begins when I introduced him to my nieces/nephews (my nieces/nephews range from my age down to teens). So in short some of my nieces and nephews were married at a young age even younger than me. So here in the Philippines if our nieces/nephews will have babies, those kids will already be our grand kids. We have a few grand kids that come to our house. Those kids are the daughters of our nieces. Really in the USA those kids were really our “grand nieces”. Those girls should be “first cousin one generation removed”  or “first cousin once removed” with my kids. That said according to this website: If you have a hard time following just study the diagram that they sampled there.

When Aaron saw his grandfather’s side of the family, his great uncles and aunt were tracing how Aaron is related to their grand kids. Same thing happened when he visited his grandmother’s side of the family in Port Townsend, they were also talking about family history. Aaron at the end got so confused and he told them, hey I’m just going to follow the Filipino way. It’s much easier for me to remember. Ha ha ha… Of course he had me to figure it all out for him. LOL

Bob with two of our granddaughters - KC and Sharmaine

Bob with two of our granddaughters – KC and Sharmaine

I think with Bob living here in the Philippines for a long time, I think he is just adopting the Filipino way already. I didn’t ask him though, but I think he agrees with Aaron it’s much easier to figure it out here. Ha ha ha… He doesn’t mind being called GramPa by those grand kids of ours. He is just so happy seeing those kids. One of them comes over here at the house almost every weekend. She will call him on Viber a few times a week. She will text good night to us. She’s just a joy to be with. Honestly there was a story behind it. That girl is really special to us. She was staying with us when she was a baby. I think the connection was still there when she was away for years and years. She really likes to stay with us here now. She comes to GramPa’s office and talks and made jokes. Problem is, she usually speaks in Tagalog, sometimes GramPa had a hard time understanding with Tagalog.

Are you trying to figure it out too of your relationship to your next of kin? Hope it gets easier for you. :-). Good luck and have fun with your family.

Cheers!

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Feyma Martin is a Columnist here on the Live in the Philippines Web Magazine, she is the wife of site Publisher, Bob Martin. Feyma is originally from the Philippines, but went to the USA for 10 years after marrying Bob in 1990. Bob & Feyma moved to the Philippines to live permanently in 2000.

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Yes Feyma, it can be very confusing once we start counting extended family members past sanlibo (1000). Though in my case I was already well familiar with my (now) wifes’ parents, siblings, their respective asawa and kids and I well expected it would get increasingly complex once it got to the 3rd-cousin-twice-removed-grandson stage … if I’m lucky if they remember me years later and seems that most do. As for more immediate “extended family”, I pretty well also know their assumed “tribal” names and their kids all know my affectionate pet names for them. 🙂 Get used to it –… Read more »

Greg Schulze
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Feyma just taught me a good lesson. Now I know why my asawa says I am a grandpa. My niece has a baby. Thanks for the lesson Feyma.

Greg Schulze
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Yes it is my friend, yes it is

Bob Martin
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Well, Greg, having time move forward is certainly better than the alternative. 😉

Greg Schulze
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Yes it can be overwhwlming. Unfortunately time will keep marching. All we can do is keep remembering the old days and hopefully have pictures to look at.

Bob Martin
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My wife and I got married 25 years ago, Greg. I was sitting there with all of the family yesterday realizing that the young kids who participated in our wedding (ring bearer, flower girls, etc) are all in their 30s now! They have their own kids. The thought was quite overwhelming to me, realizing that so much time has passed, and like keeps going on.

Greg Schulze
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So far only one niece has a baby. the other two are still way to young. Yes, families grow quick. I love them all.

Bob Martin
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Ha ha… that is a nice connection. Yesterday we were in GenSan for a business meeting, and see my wife’s family. Had a wonderful time, and see all of the nieces, and they mostly all have their own kids now! Wow, the family is really growing!

Greg Schulze
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Yes they are special people. I love mine to death. Both of them would not leave my side while we were home. They said that they were my body guards (lol)

Bob Martin
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Same here, Greg! I have so many nephews and nieces and I love them all. They all treat me very good, and it would be impossible to replace them! Special people.

Greg Schulze
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I totaly agree. I don’t know what I would do if I didn’t have my niece’s Shaira (8) and Krisha (3) around when we were home. They are my palanga’s

Bob Martin
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So true, Greg. When I learned that I am a grandpa, I was so happy! It brings a little more joy to life having the kids around!

Norman Sison
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Norman Sison

When in doubt, use a Rolodex. 😀

bloodymal
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when you marry a Filipina you marry the whole family…aint that the truth …my asawa has 13 bros an sisters so you can imagine the amount of nieces,nephews grandies etc we have,,countless..it aint easy remembering dem all by the sheer volume..but I try and they know it ,,so alls fine
..even have a couple of nephews who are now nieces,if you get my drift,,,gotta love em all tho

Violet VL
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thanks for this articcle.

Feyma Bayoy Martin
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Hi Violet, you’re welcome. I’m glad you liked my post.

Bob Martin
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Thank you Violet, glad you liked it, but I doubt that you learned anything new! 🙂 You already know all of that.

ScottD
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ScottD

I think someone should create an app for this…. LoL

AJ UK
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AJ UK

My life has been made slightly easier due to the fact that three of my wife’s sisters don’t speak to her any more. Perhaps one day all of the wounds will be healed and I will have more names to remember. To tell the truth though I will lose sleep over it. Very disappointing though as we paid for one of the sisters to go through college. Such is life. The extended family always cause me confusion. If I see them often enough I will remember them but please don’t expect me to remember the name of someone I met… Read more »

PalawanBob
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PalawanBob

AJ,
Did you ever consider Vietnam or Cambodia?
I know a couple of guys who are pretty happy there.

AJ UK
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AJ UK

Not really Palawan Bob. I feel at home in PI and enjoy my life there. I won’t let a few family disputes force me away. On the whole we get on great with everyone except the three sisters. It was a case of one jealous person poisoning the minds of the other two. One sister has come back to the fold as she has realised what we have done for her and her three daughters. Her father opened here eyes when she rejected us and he made her realise what she would have been without us. Things will never be… Read more »

Fred Patterson
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Just too cute,, no not you Bob!

Murray
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Murray

I wish my ex-girlfriend had been an orphan, it was her parasitic family that made our relationship untenable. They didn’t care about what I was going to do for my son’s future, it was always me, me, me, me, me. Unfortunately my ex couldn’t side against them.

Feyma Bayoy Martin
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Thank you Fred. She’s really cute, I have to agree with you on that. Lol

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