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I returned to San Francisco after leaving my fiancé in the Philippines just to find myself getting on the airplane again. I cannot eat or sleep or function correctly because of my constant thoughts of Marivic. My lawyer says the fastest way to get her here is to marry her there, I would later find out what a mistake this was! WOW, I am going to get married for the first time in my life and I do not have cold feet. We prepare for the wedding to be outside on the beach at a resort in Leyte. I have prepared for the deconstruction of my beach house in Dolores; I do not belong there anymore. I love my new family so much item often thinking about them as much as my new wife to be. I will settle on this new island.

On the afternoon of our wedding all the foods that have been prepared arrive. So many familiar faces and then some I don’t recognize, but there’s so many people I will never know whether they’re friends, neighbors or party crashers. We eat, dance and drink into the late afternoon waiting for the mayor. But he never shows up to marry us because he is on the other side of the island drinking with his friends because he lost to the election. Well, that went smooth! We have our wedding paper documents sent by courier to the mayor to have him sign the paper. Later in the week, we attended City Hall and get the approval stamps on our documents.

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My wife and I honeymoon on the beach for a week getting to know one another and one’s habits. I have a place picked out a place to see how rough she can take it; just like backpacking I’ve had the pleasure of girls saying they needed their hair dryer. There’s no conflict or changes to one another, just nice and easy and smooth. No eggshells to avoid stepping on. We now make our way to Manila on a nice ship that will take four days to arrive. I love watching all the islands and especially at sunset. Arriving in Manila we make our way to the embassy and other official destinations to complete the necessary paperwork. We leave early in the morning before Sunrise to get in line but I think people have lived in these lines for some time. It winds around corners and other buildings in the hot sun and when your called for it to be your turn someone closes the window or you find out you’re in the wrong line. For days we do this unrelenting confusion to different parts of the city being bounced around.

I am in different parts of the city I do not know nor does Marivic. We change different apartments to meet our goals, one night we got so tired that we just gave out and gave up going any further. We got a hotel room, didn’t look like the best but it didn’t look like the worst and besides, our taxi took off. We have dubbed this the Motel from Hell. We got inside to relax and found out the door locks did not even work. We could get into trouble very easily here, I didn’t see any cockroaches here but somehow I don’t think it was up to their standards. One way or another we are going to rest for the evening, so I make a barricade at the door. But still our mission is to get things done in get through to the next day.

I believe that I have done everything that my terrorist lawyer back in California has asked me to do. So I will have to say goodbye to my new wife, again, to get this paperwork to him so he can sort it out and start to the processes of bringing my expecting wife to the United States.

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Patrick Duffey

The stories I have written about my observations in the Philippines come from the utmost respect for the people and the way of life there. The way the Pinoy can adapt to the hardest of conditions thrust upon them and still be humble in very proud people. I have written without prejudice to these newspapers and magazines without charging one peso, I did get cut off at the knees for my political views of “Erap” with his corruption. I did this not to get anyone angry. I did it so the people whom have forgotten how incredibly beautiful is there or maybe the ones who were not born there and not traveled there yet can get a glimpse through these balikbayan’s blue eye’s. I am not here to make political judgments or interfere with anyone else’s business. I went to the Philippines for the intentions of songwriting. I have been with such bands as Santana, Pablo Cruise, The Tubes, Joe Satrani, Martha Davis and Pink Floyd. Don't know who they are~~ look them up! This has been my life's work while working with bands I loved! I have toured and visited many places but never enough time to relax to get the feel, so simple songs in paradise should be trouble. The songs I intended to compose instead became my lonely planet journal. My heart got infected, and I wanted to give back some of this hospitality given to me by the worlds connoisseurs’. I am proud and privileged to have some sight, if only brief to what many foreigners will never see or feel. I hope that you have enjoyed the stories as much as I have writing them. God Bless to all. Sadly 9 yrs of marriage and two boys the marriage failed from both sides truthfully and I am looking at again to go back to the Philippines to set my heart free once more. Yes, the money is here but the freedom and love is where the heart is, and where mine is… in the Philippines!

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You have had a rough time of it for sure but just hang in there . I also married in the Philippines , returned to the US & processed the paper work myself without an attorney & it took about a year before she arrived . But as i understand it the lag time has decreased quite a bit since then as some say 6 – 8 months .

At least in San Francisco she will find many Filipino from the time she hits the airport . 🙂

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Partrick

Wish you and Marivic the best of luck through the immigration process. Looking forward to your future articles. Very enjoyable

Patrick Duffey
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Patrick Duffey

Thank you Randy for your wishes……..it’s been a done deal now for 10 years. Glad you enjoyed the writings. I wish you a wonderful Holidays! ~P

Patrick Duffey
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Patrick Duffey

Greetings Alan,
Yes the time-line has lessened from when this was happening to us (year 2000). Yep, there’s LOTS of Filipino here in S.F. as you stated but she like I don’t get along too well with those whom have “forgotten” about the struggles of perhaps themselves and or those left behind to contend with the day by day survival. I wish you and your loved ones a fantastic holidays! ~P

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cris

Hello Patrick, Once in a while, i try to check Live in the Philippines to read and i enjoy just reading, sometimes commenting but not often. When my fiancee, now husband asked how to get me here in the states the fastest way possible, he was advised to file for a fiancee visa rather than a spousal visa. It took us 6 months from the time he filed to the time i got the approval, eventually another month for me to get here in the states. I was given 6 months one entry permit, then 90 days to get married… Read more »

Patrick Duffey
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Patrick Duffey

LOL,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, Hello0 Chris,
Your husband and his strategy are correct in their processes. My Lawyer was “ABU” in many ways as he was refereed to me from a business associate for these matters, I had other lawyers to handle other matters but this was a separate matter. It did not keep my “eye on the ball” and with others circumstances along with 9-11 and newborn complicating matters it was HELL! Again your husband is correct in his approach to guide you – happy many years to come to you both! merry Christmas and happy holidays to you both! ~P

Richard D
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Richard D

In following your adventures I believe this was back around 2001. Back then it took much longer for the spousal visa (up to 2 years), but now some are approved within 7 months. Getting anything done in the Philippines is an adventure.

Patrick Duffey
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Patrick Duffey

Hi Richard,
You are the first one to hit on this being 10 yrs ago with the exception of Sir Robert whom blessed these articles. You are correct in the adventure part as well,,,,,,,,,,,EVERYTHING is! Well, it was a different time and strategy before and with 9-11 complicating things it was HELL! But,,,,,,,,got through it somehow? I wish you a wonderful holidays my friend!

Dan
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Dan

Interesting story here Patrick…I was going to ask you if these stories are present time or the after glow of years gone by. I thought that one part…(I would later find out what a mistake this was!) was something I thought of more than one time after I was married many moons back…I can look thru the window of the past and laugh about it…but when you are going thru it all wondering “why did I do this!” its not so funny……any way…really enjoy your stories here..and do hope that your present day life is going well for you and… Read more »

Patrick Duffey
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Patrick Duffey

Hi again Dan, yep – you and Richard!!!!!!!!!!! Both nailed it! This was from 1995-2001 and form of my travel log and wanting to give back in return for the exceptional hospitality of the Pinoy! looking through the window as you stated going for a view into the past back it was not so funny and even today not so as I wonder what possessed me into doing the “wrong” strategic moves. I am always very excited to hear someone enjoyed my babbling about P.I. as I wished I could be Ambassador someday to promote! A blessed holidays to you… Read more »

Edward Griffin
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Edward Griffin

Please keep us informed as I will be going through the same next year.

Thanks,
Ed

Patrick Duffey
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Patrick Duffey

Hello Ed,,,,,,
PLEASE check in with the current updates and get some good knowledge behind what is necessary at the moment. Yes, you can do it yourself but be very careful as only 1 misspelled word or incorrect info will send you into a tailspin. The reasoning behind why I got this ( BAD MISTAKE ABU) lawyer is that I had my company to attend to and run as well. be diligent – be careful and always best wishes it goes smooth for you. Blessings ad hope you have a excellent holidays! ~ P

Weil
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Weil

Did you compile your life story in a book. Please let me know. I’d like to buy it as I can’t wait for the next episode. Cheers..

Patrick Duffey
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Patrick Duffey

Well Weil,
Maybe someday I Weil but this was my first and last attempt at writing. Guess nothing really excites me to what makes me come alive here in America. I am so blushing at your comment though…….that was so nice ! I think that besides you and I there might not be any others for the book signing! I am very happy you enjoyed at there that is payment received from you and the others of what it was intended. Best of holidays my friend and many blessings to you and your loved ones ~ P

chris
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chris

Hi pat just wondering if this is present day or past times ,i married my wife here in australia but a friend mariied his in the phillipines and she was so much easier to get here we ahd a hell of a time all the medicals then she was diagnosed with suspected tb and the list went on and on i was with her on her final visit to the doictor in davoa and i think he got my meaning if you know what i mean i still beleive to this day that he was profiteering from the asesment of… Read more »

Patrick Duffey
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Patrick Duffey

Wow,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,! You Chris, Richard and Dan have done the unspeakable………………… All three on this article have the knowledge ( don’t remember anyone prior) and if so ….sorry to them. Australia is probably more laxed than the U.S. if I were to only guess but don’t really know. TB is a real deal breaker with getting these sweeties into any other country. Congratulations on your 3 yr anniversary coming up Chris! I am overjoyed that you did not abandon her and the friend you met,that speaks volumes of your worthiness! I’m also so very please like the other fiends I have… Read more »

Dave Bennett
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Dave Bennett

Hi Patrick, I will have my story in an article published here next Tuesday. A lawyer told me the same thing about getting married. Anyway it is in the article. I couldn’t get my wife to the US so i just sold everything and came here! What really interest me is your connection to the bands and song writing. All the bands you mentioned are great. Of course Pink Floyd is the greatest Band ever (let them who have ears hear). I am a songwriter also been a band guy for years but don’t play anymore really. I don’t have… Read more »

Patrick Duffey
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Patrick Duffey

Mr. Bennett, I suppose you did the correct thing instead of where the lawyer was to lead you,,,,”maybe my old lawyer has a relative somewhere else practicing?” Wished i could have just sold out also —-Good for you! BTW…. Just saw Rodger Waters 2 nights ago and that is why I am tardy to correspond back to all the earlier comments. The band is just fantastic…. that is really what I think! Oh, by the way which one is….? Love the (let them whom have ears hear) um, we should swap songs maybe and let me know if you are… Read more »

Gary Wigle
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Gary Wigle

Hi Patrick,

It seems you are a guy that loves to spend lots of hard earned cash. No lawyer is needed to your wife to the States. The forms are free and easy to fill out. Do it yourself. Your wife will have more trouble getting her paper works that are needed than you will. Good Luck!

73,
Gary

Patrick Duffey
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Patrick Duffey

Hello Gary,

YES—I do agree with you but had to tend to other matters that also needed my attention. What I did NOT want to do was to make a simple mistake they would delay forever the process. I needed no mistakes although following my (ABU) lawyers advice was the worst thing I could have done………….This by the way is back when 9-11 happened and everything went to #@*^!

I hope you have a wonderful holidays for you and your loved ones! ~P

Don
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Don

Marrying a locally born bride in a small town in Leyte is a good idea, Patrick. My future wife and I will hopefully follow in your trailblazing footsteps in a few years 🙂 but I think we’ll decide to live in the Manila megalopolis for other reasons. Pink Floyd’s Another Brick in the Wall: one of the top three rock songs of all time! Don

Patrick Duffey
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Patrick Duffey

Hiya Don, Congrtas on the wedding! Yeah not wanting to go to the “big city gal” thing and even though I am from the big city life world I longed for the simpleness of being back into the country style that I had growing up with. Seemingly that the people were so much friendlier (as if that were possible in P.I.) When I get back to P.I. to build in the country I invite you and everyone else here (GOD WILLING) to a miniature Woodstock but will be for only a day & 1/2? Want to party with the local… Read more »

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