I’m writing about the prejudices that I’ve experienced in the States while living there for 10 years. Not really too many instances but it happened to me. It’s not really shocking but in many ways I also wonder why would some people do that kind of thing.
Really it happened to me when Chris was about a year old or two. Bob and I really liked to go for a short drives to small towns in either Washington or Oregon area & the coast. We went near to the town where Bob grow up in Oregon. He was showing me the places that he and his sibling went for their grade school. It was a nice little town. Good to raise young kids. Plus he also was introducing me to the lady that was close to his family that resides in that small town. She’s kind of the lady to go to with the kids. She’s a good and special teacher. On the way there Chris was sleeping. As we were approaching the town Chris woke up and wanting to eat. So since it’s still not eating time we decided to get him some fries. So Bob stopped at a small restaurant. Its really just a take out place.
So Bob & Chris stayed in the car and I jumped out of the car and went to the small take out place. I was standing just at the take out window and wanting to order, there were 2 white ladies inside and they can see me. They’re just like a few feet away from me. I started talking to them wanting to order. I was being ignored. I figured maybe they didn’t hear me since they’re chatting. So I said it again and they didn’t listen they just continued on talking and ignoring me even though they saw me. I waited for another minute and still they didn’t turn around and take my order. That hits me, Bob & his parents kind of mentioned to me about some people in small town has tendency to be against other races. So it hits me that this must be one of those small towns that had narrow minded people. So I decided to just go back to the car.
Bob asked me where’s the fries? I told him they don’t want my money. They’re ignoring me. Bob was gonna go to that place and give them some piece of what’s on in his mind. I told him to just not worry and just let them be. They’re just idiots and uneducated. But honestly inside of me was already boiling. Bob told me to not accept that kind of behavior of others. I guess he taught me well. After that it really did change me a bit. I’m not accepting those kind of attitude anymore. Especially now with my kids being bullied. Not going to accept it.
But the sad one was Bob’s best friend in high school. Before I came into the picture, Bob was talking to his best friend regularly. He lives in different State. He would call Bob or Bob would call him. After he found out Bob was married to me and I came from different race., that really changed everything. Bob would call him and he never called back at the house. Not sure if he called at Bob’s work (I can’t remember). I did talk to him once just a few weeks after I got there in the US. He seems nice but I think because he grew up differently, its hard for him to change. We never met in person though. I guess not my loss, it’s his. Bob told me that whoever would not accept me as his wife, he is dropping them. So far that best friend of his was the only one. Every one in his family and friends were so nice and so friendly to me. With Bob’s cousins the kids especially and his nephew. Lord have mercy they go gaga over me. LOL… At least some were so loving with me aside from Bob. 🙂 All in all my stay in America its good. Love my time there. Was happy to be with Bob’s family and my friends and neighbors. I’m happy knowing lots of people there. Same thing if any of my friends/family won’t accept Bob, I’m dropping them too.
Here in the Philippines was another story. It’s funny now but it was hurtful at first though. We came back to the Philippines I was just a month after giving birth, C-section, to my youngest son. During my pregnancy I really gained. I had some problems with my pregnancy. After giving birth with the moving and packing and preparing to come here I didn’t think of losing weight there. So I came here I weigh like 145 lbs. It was a good transition. A friend already had a house ready for us to rent here. It was really nice and in a good neighborhood. Did you know that the tricycle driver told me that I had to pay double because I was big. Then my helpers told me that some of those drivers said to them “Oh your employer is that big lady?”. Wow, I was hurt but I can’t just blow them off. How can I get to them, they didn’t even pass grade school. If I get mad at them as if I’m also not an educated person. What will I gain on that? But OMG, I really would like to give them a piece of what’s on my mind. God knows how much I really held back. Thankfully I still had my self control. Thank God for that. LOL
I guess really anywhere we will experience prejudices in our lives. Just know how to handle it that it will not hurt your life. I know it’s not easy to say. Some people really suffered hard. I wish with the internet people are more open and accepting.