After the New Year Bob and I talked to a very dear person. We love her dearly and the do kids too. She’s living abroad with her husband. I just don’t want to mention her name due to her privacy. While talking to her I just asked her whats going on with her family here in the Philippines? She answered me back with a big sigh and I could tell that theirs a problem. So I asked her what’s the matter? She then told me that she’s not in good terms with her family because they wanted some money from her a few months back so that one of her sibling can start a business. At that time she argued with her parents that it would be a waste of money to give to this sibling. In her opinion her sibling is not ready to have a business of his own. But her parents assured her that he is getting better and that he could make a profit of that money she would give since they will invest that in the province with a Sari-Sari store business. So then she listen to her parents and give the money to the brother. At first she was really happy, the brother showed some hard work. In a few months the brother starts with his habit again. Drinking and not really responsible to his family (he has 3 kids). When one of the kid was hospitalized my dear friend was the one paying for the hospital, and even the schooling of the kids.
My dear friend also told the parents to not give to her brother anything. To let him survive on his own. To let him find job. My friend found out that the mom was bringing some food every week to my friends brother even my friend already give money to start that business. So my friend was mad at her mom. The mom answered that its just food that I brought and I don’t want the kids to go hungry. So my friend was fuming and told the mom to forget about getting money and all stuff from her from now on. The parents were really getting angry at her too and told her that because you just went abroad you really think you are better than us, and you are so conceited. Even the sibling also told her that too. So they had a big fight just few weeks before Christmas. Ever since then she didn’t give them a cent yet. She told me that she’s thinking of giving her parents just like $20 a week. She told them to survive on that money. Her parents they are not that old yet. They also had some business before she went abroad, so they are okay. That’s why they are struggling a bit because the sibling just keep asking them money and they will provide him. The family of the sibling even moved back to the parents house to live. Of course the parents will be the one buying for their food too.
Since my friend went abroad some family members also got sick. She gave some money to that person. But then her mom was hinting her to give some more. She told her mom frankly that I can’t give to anybody when they get sick because if you guys would ever get sick nobody hands any money to you and said thats for your medication. I think the mom just didn’t get my friends point. The mom was kind of hurt of the bluntness of my friend. I told my friend that your mom and the family probably blame me of being so close to you because you got influenced by me. When I meet my friend she was really shy and you know the typical Filipina so timid. Hanging out too much with me she got some of my attitudes. My friend told me that she was really happy being around me and Bob because when she got to her husband’s place abroad she didn’t have a hard time adjusting there because I taught her a lot.
Anyway, I told my friend to just not talk to her family too much because I don’t want her to say some stuff that she might regret later. I told her to just calm down and let her family calm down too. Both parties are mad right now that it is not worth talking at this time. To give themselves sometime to think hard. Really I hope that they will resolve this matter because I care for my friend and her parents too. They are nice people. To you my friend, Bob and I will pray for you. We know that you are hurting. We love you. All this will be over in time.