Today I got a text from our helper that she is quitting.
She went home a few days ago to the province to visit her Dad and attend the wedding of her uncle.
Our helper was complaining how did her uncle afford to be getting married (even special wedding) that him and his wife has no job. The wife-to-be is like 5 months pregnant now. A few months back that same uncle was asking some money from our helper for her to help the wedding expenses. I told her at that time that would you really want to send the money to your uncle even your dad is needing the money for his check up? Her dad is kind of sickly with old age and overwork in the farm. She told me that she wants the money to be given to her dad. I had a feeling that the family is forcing them to help pay with the wedding. My nieces and I even told her to just send the money to her dad because the fare to go to the farm can already pay half sack of rice. Which is a big deal to her family.
She has been working with us for over 2 years now. When I hired her I told her that I don’t want for her to just stay with me for a few months and I will train her how to do some work and later on quit. Well, at least she stayed for 2 years.
When she first came to our house she really looked pretty bad, her teeth had lots of problems, her skin was so dry because of working in the farm. Really we felt sorry for her. The next day when she came I immediately brought her to the dentist for her teeth to get fixed first. The dentist did a good job and our helper was really happy with the result. At least for staying here for 2 years she really learned a lot and she looks better. Even her neighbors in the province would always comment to her that she must have been treated good with her employer because she looks great now.
She told my sister that it is hard for her to quit because we really treated her good, but just that she wants to be with her family all the time. My sister said that how could she afford the medicine and the food if she’s not working? Our helper said that it’s okay for her to work at the next town and have a smaller paycheck as long as shes near to her dad.
I think she is now helping her aunt to do laundry (labandera). Some of her cousins want her to be the nanny of their babies and kids. They even got mad at her for working with us since we are not her family. I think she’s just so tired of their whining and will just work with them to get it over with. She really despises her extended family because when her and her dad were in need of her family to help them because one of her siblings got ill, the family just turned them away and told them they had no money.
But when the uncle was getting ready to get married the family really told the dad of our helper that they have to give this amount of money and they have to give it right away. And now that our helper was working and earning a little bit to support her dad and siblings the family wants a portion of her paycheck too. Sometimes I told her to get her priority straight. To focus on her dad and her siblings instead of her relatives.
I really hope she is happy on the next job that she ventures. I hope that she will not get married soon, shes too young to have a kid too.