Last week I went back to the province to attend the 40th day of my mom’s passing. Here in my province the 40 days is a big day. Since my mom was a Catholic we did everything in her beliefs. My sister whose a Catholic carried it on. Nine days before the 40 days my sister had 8 nights of prayer (1 hour long). On the 9th day/ 40 days at the same time the prayer would be at the grave. I think only Catholic would have the 9 days prayer, but some other religions celebrate 40 days. My nephew who’s wife is a Muslim, the wife told us that they also celebrate 40 days.
Lots of my family and my moms friends came to have prayer at the house too. We really had 2 prayers going on one was at my sister (my mom stayed at her house for a long time too) in GenSan who is a Catholic and the other one was at the house where my mom died. It was really nice seeing some of our family there. A lot of them helped us during the time my mom was ill.
On that day at the house we butchered a pig and some chickens. Really most of the people that attended were the family of my mom and some from my dad side, also some of my parents’ tenants on our land before. The people that helped in the kitchen are the friends of my sister in church. Very nice people and good cooks too.
Its really a double celebration because its my mom’s 40 days of passing and its also the birthday of my brother-in-law. We had prayer first for my mom and later that evening my sister prepared also for my brother-in-laws birthday. At first my brother-in-law didn’t really feel like celebrating because my mom just died. My sister just prepared something since were there anyway to celebrate with them. It turn out to be a good celebration though. My brother-in-law really had a good time. Honestly it was hard loosing Mama but we are also happy that finally her suffering is done. We just celebrated the life that we had with her. Before my mom died and when our farm was safe for my kids to come and visit the original plan of my brother-in-law was to have a big celebration. He wanted to invite all his nephews and nieces. But the plans changed when its not that safe anymore there. He was really looking forward for my kids to come there especially Chris. They really are close. Hopefully next year our place would be good already for my kids to visit again.
To my siblings thank you for preparing. You guys really work hard there. Of course to my Honey, your always so supportive even though you don’t really understand the culture sometimes. I love you more for that.