A few days ago Bob, myself and a friend were sitting on our porch watching the kids play basketball. We were talking about the party that we just attended a few days back. With that chat we touched on a topic about our kids behavior now compared to when we were kids. Like we always said our kids growing up now have an easier life compared to the life we had back then.
Our conversation then went on to the girls before and now. I’m meaning to say about the girls that was brought up way before the internet came. We both made ourselves and our families as a sample. Like me and that friend were both brought up in the farm. We are happy and satisfied of what we had before. We have to get by of what toys we have even just making toys out from scratched. We are taught to obey our parents always and be respectful of the elders. Like we were talking also of how we used to dressed ourselves before, it is so conservatively. Which both of us said that it is okay to be updated in the year we are now, but we are hoping that the Filipinas will still have a little bit of the conservativeness that we had before. With the internet now, wow, the girls are just showing off everything just to lure the guys to earned extra cash. I know lots also were brought good thing with the internet and some people were just using it for the bad thing.
You know it is the modern era now, that’s what they called it. But still lots of men here still wants the ladies to have some old fashion ways. I mean I’ve heard young men making comment that they still want the conservative ways of the old days. Like they want that they will be the one chasing the girls, instead of the other way around. They still want too, that they will go to the house and ask the parent of the girl, if they can court the daughter. They want the ladies to dress up more conservative than seeing bulging cleavage. I’ve heard people saying that you can find ladies do the old fashion way in the province. I think we still have lots of conservative ladies in the city, but a little harder to find. I’m glad we still have some ladies like that this days. I also know that it is far from the old days what we have now, but at least some ladies are trying to still remained some old ways.
But thinking of it. My friend that we just had the chat, her daughters were somewhat raised the old way. So I think it really depends on every parent on how to disciplined their kids. Or is it also from who the kids really hangs out with nowadays will tell who the kids really are? We were just really puzzled by how the young ladies nowadays knows how to lure guys on the net at the young age. Also how the older ladies chat on the net and showing off everything, and with lots of guy pretending to be a lady just to get money. So many things and questions on our mind. It is hard to find good answer.
But we are also talking of the guys wanting a wild ladies (like naughty one). We all would say that it is not hard to find ladies like that, just go to the bar that have dancers, and they can find women they wanted. Luckily here in Davao we don’t have bars that have nude dancers. I think the mayor here will closed down the establishment right away. I’ve heard over ten years ago they had places like that here, but the last mayor here closed that places down. Good for him.
Really the old fashion ways of the Filipinos is fading more and more. I’m glad and sad that people are more open into whats new with the surroundings. But it is also makes other people wanted more and more as if with no satisfactions and that makes the other people do drastic stuff that ends up hurting them or others. I guess this is part of life that we have to accept and deal with it. Really hard to find solutions but we can talk about it and share ideas about it.
Cheers!
Feyma;
The internet can and is used in some shady ways. But with children, if a proper foundation was built by the parents all should turn out well. When I was young, we (my friends) used to hang around on a street corner not far from our houses. The beat cop, knew all of our parents and one word from him would calm us down. But the main thing was our upbringing, and the values we learned when younger. If kids are given that, in any generation, the outside world and the WWW might tempt them, but they will have the knowledge to decide the right thing to do.
Hi Paul – Totally agree with you. Yes proper guidance from the parents really is a plus. Lots of the problem nowadays, the TV or the computer was the babysitter for the kids if the parents were not there. Sometimes with the absence of the parents the kids will tend to do bad stuff just to get the attention of the parents.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts here. Highly appreciated.
Agree with Paul, it all starts with the parents. If the parents set a good example and expect their children to follow in that way, a child will have a chance at growing-up right. In regard to the internet and technology-aspect of the “faster life,” I would argue that again it falls to the parents to put their foot down and not need to always “keep up with the Jone'” and have all the new and fancy stuff — limiting television, internet, cell-phone use, etc. is probably a good thing.
Hi Brent Johnson – Yes you are right parents should set an example to their kids. To be honest, like with our kids Bob and I really checked what they are doing on the internet. Also with regards to accepting friends on Facebook Bob and I will check out who they are accepting friends. It’s not easy to be the police, but we have to do it.
We parents really have to know whats going on with our kids. Keep an open communication with the kids.
Nice to see you here and thank you for sharing!
Mrs Feyma,
Totally agree with Paul/Brent. When my kids were growing up they were always supervised. They would never be allowed to roam around the neighborhood and be out at all hours of the night. They complained about it, but they all turned out great with no problems whatsoever. Have a nice day.
Hi Papa Duck – Good for you. They will complained at first but if you explain to your kids your reason, they will understand it. You’re the lucky man that your kids turned out great. Happy for you. Honestly with our kids right now we don’t have major problems yet. I hope it stays that way. I’m proud to say that they are really good kids. I’m proud of them.
Thank you again Papa Duck for stopping by. Always good to see you here.
Take care!
Much of what Feyma says is true but there is an upside to young people these days – they are much more open minded than earlier generations. My youngest were born in the Philippines but raised in Scotland and initially I was a little worried about racism but we never encountered any. They brought friends of all races,colours and religion home,we brought Scottish boyfriends and girlfriends to the Philippines for holidays and I observed that the youth of today have absolutely no concept of any kind of racism – this applies to both Scotland and the Philippines – they could not care less about race colour or creed.The culture of young people today is international – they share the same hobbies,music etc. This gives me a little hope that the world will be a better place in future with fewer causes of conflict.