A few weeks ago Bob and I went somewhere in downtown Davao riding on a jeepney. When we hopped in the jeepney, we noticed a young and beautiful girl. Bob immediately talked to her and asked her name. The girl said that her name is Sakura. Just by looking at Sakura, we could tell that she’s not a full blooded Filipino, but half breed from other Asian country. She’s so light skin. Her grandmother (she’s sitting next to Sakura) confirmed to us that Sakura is a mestiza, her dad is a Japanese. She’s 8 years old. She’s a shy girl, but at least she was answering Bob when she was asking questions.
While Bob and Sakura were talking I was also talking to her grandmother. I asked the grandma if Sakura was born in Japan? The grandmother said that Sakura was born here in the Philippines and never been to Japan and never met her dad. I guess when the mom knew that she was pregnant with Sakura, she decided to just stay here in the Philippines for good after giving birth. Sakura was not supported financially by the dad.
I don’t know if the mom just didn’t tell the father that he had a child here in the Philippines. It is sad to see a young and beautiful kid struggle in life and to think she could have a better life if she had been supported by the dad. She’s studying in the public school. The grandparents are also struggling to support her, but they are working very hard to support her. I don’t really know the real story of the dad not supporting Sakura, and I don’t know the real reasons why the mom did not ask for support from the father. Hopefully later Sakura will have the courage to find her dad, or the dad will find Sakura.
So I thought that they were all living together, the mom and the grandparents and Sakura. The grandmother said that ever since Sakura was born, the grandmother and the grandfather were the one taking care of her. The mom will support financially but its the grandparents were the one raising her. When the mom got married a few years ago. The mom wants Sakura to move in with her and her husband. To her surprised the grandparents of Sakura didn’t allow the mom to bring Sakura with her. The grandparents were just to scared that the new husband might do something to Sakura. You know the horror stories sometimes of the step-dad abuse the stepdaughter.
Honestly we can understand both sides. The grandparents want to protect Sakura, but, what if the husband of the mother is a nice guy too. They didn’t give him a chance to bond with the kid. But on the other hand, what if he is one of those lunatic guys too that’s abusive to the kid. Really we don’t know what’s going on with them. They are the one knows what’s going on with their lives.
Really I was just sad for her. I wish to God that she could have a better life. I mean she had a pretty good life with the grandparents, I know she was really loved by them. I know also that there is more to life than material things. But what I mean also for her to go to a nice school, eating really good food, living in a nice house, with a few gadgets. Don’t take me wrong the grandparents gave her what they could. It was just sad that the mom did not raise her and she will never know her dad ever. Just by talking to the grandmother I don’t think they will ever reach out to the dad. Really my heart goes out to her. She really seems a very nice and well behaved kid. I told her before we got off from the jeepney, for her to study hard and be a good girl always. I really wish her well. I gave her one of my business card and told her if ever she needs anything to contact me. Geez, I really hope she will get a hold of me. I want her to know my kids.
Good luck to you my new friend. All the best!