What defines you? Can a person be fully defined by a single thing he says? I do not believe that would be fair or accurate to judge a person’s being entirely on a single statement he makes.
Lately, I have gotten a bit of feedback from a few, only a few, readers of this site. The feedback I have gotten seems to indicate that by reading a single article that I wrote here, they have defined my total being. I am sorry, but that is not fair.
For example, my article from last Friday about my experience in being offered a job in a Korean language school. One person wrote to me and scolded me for hating Koreans. I don’t hate Koreans, the article was about a single incident in my life of being offered a job in a language school run by Koreans. I didn’t like the way they handled the situation, and that caused me to have no interest in working there. I didn’t need the job anyway, but thought it might be an interesting thing to do. Because I wrote an article of an experience that I felt was not the way I liked it, and that experience was with Koreans, that does not mean that I dislike or feel badly toward Koreans in general.
The fact is, here on LiP, I write three articles per week (I used to write 5 per week), and I have been writing here for 4 years now. When I write an article it is about that one incident or a very specific feeling, and should not be considered my feeling and applied to every aspect of life. That article only shows a snapshot of my feelings at the time that I wrote the article. In fact, there have been a number of instances when I have written articles on a certain topic, and then a year or more later I wrote a second article on the same topic, and showed that my opinion had changed, or that I looked at the same topic with a different perspective. That is life. In fact, the changing of a personal feeling or belief shows personal growth, and being open to shifting your belief on a topic shows an openness and a personal ability to grow and become a better person, or at least a different person. That kind of ability is a good thing, in my view.
So, please, when you read an article by myself, or really any writer on this site, don’t feel that it sets that person in stone on an issue. It only shows what the writer feels about an issue at the time of writing, nor for life. In fact, this LiP site is such a community based site, with a great deal of interaction between writer and reader, that many times my views shift a bit simply by reading comments that are left here. Perhaps a comment will open up a different point of view to me that I had not previously considered. When that happens, it helps me refine my thinking and consider a different angle. It allows for my personal growth, and helps me in my ability to allow such personal growth in my thinking process.
Anyway, it’s important for all of us to remember that none of us are completely defined by a single thing that we say or write.