It’s really nice now that we decided to ride jeepneys in going anywhere here in the city area. On one of our jeepney routes, me and my niece overheard a very interesting conversation of 2 old friends. One of the ladies might be in her mid 50’s and the other one might be a little younger than me. I am just estimating their ages. The route was a bit longer because of the traffic accident. So even with the traffic I was not agitated because of the delay, just thankful of the interesting conversation I’ve heard inside the jeepney. As the minutes went on, their conversations got intense. Both of them shared each other stories about their friends or close friends rendezvous. I will share their conversation here, some readers here might know of similar stories happens to their friends or relatives. Feel free to share here. I will make 2 post from the lady’s chitchat.
As I gathered with their conversation, both ladies used to be neighbors. They were just in that jeepney together accidentally. When the older lady converse about the wedding of I think her close family member. She was asked to be the godmother (ninang) of the couples to be. She was happy to do it. She was even helping the couple in the wedding preparation. Just by listening I could tell that the wedding was a success. The godmother said that the guy, a foreigner from the States, was a bit older than the lady. I guess the guy had money and was getting a big pension. As I was hearing the conversation, the bride was a lavish spender. Bought stuff that’s not even necessary. They had a really nice wedding. Which was understandable since she was just married once, so why not have a fancy wedding? She bought stuff for their house and of course the typical thing partied almost every night, drinking beer and liquor.
The guy wants to live here in the Philippines because he has the money to live here comfortably. The lady really insisted before the wedding that they had to live in America. So the guy agreed to the wishes of the girl because he really loved the girl so much. Thinking about it, it might also good for the lady to live in the States for a few years for her to learn American culture and that she will get her US citizenship and after that they will settle back here in the Philippines for good.
Well, after the wedding when they should have the honeymoon somewhere. The girl postponed it and said that she’s not up to it going somewhere, because she was really exhausted with the prep of the wedding. So she just wants to go to the hotel and sleep. The godmother saw the reason for her not going with the honeymoon somewhere. The bride already had an affair with her ex two days after the wedding. Instead of spending time with her husband she was in bed with her ex. The husband was alone in his hotel room. He thinks his wife spends time with her parents. That really shocked the people that saw her and the ex especially the godmother.
So the godmother was fuming. She told the bride to end the relationship with the ex or she will tell the husband immediately, she said not tomorrow, its going to be today. She told the bride that if she ever do that again that she will never want to get involve with the family because she will never tolerate that kind of behavior. She also added that from now on she will monitor the bride and if theirs something she notice that’s not appropriate to the marriage, she will tell the husband and the church. Hmm. Shocking.. It worked though, because she said the bride really straighten up and behave like a wife after their talk. Just by listening I was hoping too for the happy ending of the new couple.
So I guess you better get godparents that are really close to the family. At the end it will help out both husband and wife. I’m just glad that the godmother really stood her ground and gave her piece to the new bride. I think the parents were also giving advice to the bride to stick with the husband because not just he had the money but also they could tell that the husband will be there for their daughter until the end. They know that the ex will just be there while he can dig in money from their daughter. Plus morally they know that their daughter was already married. They bride was still processing her papers to go to the States. Hoping for the best for the husband and wife while living in the States. Good luck to them.
Watch out next week for the other story. If the story rings a bell to you feel free to comment. Have a great day!!!
I could have almost been the other guy. It turns out my first Filipina gf had 2 bfs – and unbeknownst to me married the other guy in PI. She was still chatting daily with me online, almost up to the time of the wedding. We were planning to get together again a couple months later; I already had my ticket to Manila. Her family knew nothing about me. From what I have pieced together her family found out about me shortly before her marriage, confronted her and made her break it off with me. She broke up with me but failed to mention the actual reason why – that she was getting married 🙂
Fortunately, I met a much more faithful girl who I married 4 months ago.
Hi DaveW – Wow, you also had a similar situation there. Gee, what a heartbreak must have been for you then? I just don’t get it why people play with the feelings of others. It’s just sickening to think though.
I’m so glad that you found the right one for you. Good luck and more power to you and to your wife.
Cheers!
Thanks Feyma:
Let’s face if, if most of us were able to “get it right” the first time, we would not have looked for partners in another country. My wife remained friends with me all the while when I was having a relationship with the “wrong” girl. When we broke up, it seemed obvious who had stuck by me and who I should pursue!
Sad.
Hi Philip Nell – Very sad indeed.
There are always a number of loose apples in every culture. Women who are quite happy to try and eat their cake and have it too. Girls in the Philippines who try to have a pinoy boyfriend and and be married to a foreigner with money would be a dream come true. Alas women are not men who can have a mistress ( kabit ) or two.
Also trying to hide your activities, especially in a province is very difficult. Someone will tell your secret.
Always best for foreign men to do their background checks and family checks on their future brides. You can bet nearly 100% there is a pinoy ( male ) involved somewhere in her background, good, bad or ugly. Guaranteed.
The situation in the article is not uncommon so beware.
Hi Saviour – Of course. But it doesn’t mean that we will just accept it. I know that women look for the greener pasture. To be a mistress (kabit) to achieve what you want in life (material stuff)? Nah can’t go for that. Yes, definitely it will known in the province right away if ever you had someone on the side. “To many paparazzi in the province”.
Yep, it’s worth it to hire someone to check the lady’s whereabouts.
Thank you so much for stopping by here.
Cheers!
I feel sorry for the bana, once this young asawa gets to the US I sure hope she don’t run off with some other American. I would think that prior to the marriage, there would have been some signs that this young pinay is not as pure as presented. That said, love is in fact blind I guess and the closer someone is to you the less you see or shall I say want to see. Anyway, my future asawa and I have taken our time learning about one another, some good, some bad, but after 2 1/2 years of me flying to and from the Philippines every 5 months I can say I trust her with my life as well as my heart….
Hi Mark Collister – Yep, felt sorry for him too. I think right now he doesn’t know the rendezvous of his wifey. Hopefully the lady will be happy and contented living in America with the husband.
I’m glad you found the right one for you. Good luck to you and to your future asawa.
Cheers!
happy for you….me too happily married to my american husband for nine years…we’re now living in the Philippines!
Well, that is a sad and scary story… I hope it really does have a happy ending, but this is not a good way to begin married life, especially when it involves the difficulties of a cross-cultural marriage to begin with! Ack!
Hi Luanne – That’s for sure. Me too, I’m hoping for a happy ending for the couple. If the husband know what’s going on I don’t think he will trust the wife. Oh well, well just see what happen to the couple.
Good to see you again here. Have a great day!
I’m afraid she’d never be trustworthy, to mess up on the honeymoon. I would never trust her again. In fact for me, the marriage is over.
Hi Philip Nell – I can’t agree you more.
Nice seeing you here!
Mark, I appreciated your statement. I’m with mine some 30 years, no regrets.
it is really good that they are looking out for the husband i hope it works out maybe america would be good for them because it seems she is still in love with her ex so maybe being in america she will really on him and they will have an better chance to bound
This poor sucker is going to have to find out the hard way. Friend of mine married a lady from Thailand. Brought her to the states. Paid to have her three children immigrate from Thailand to the U.S. She took him for a bundle. Tough luck.
PT Barnum once said……………
typical women that are poor are mostly like that especially from provinces. poor guy got blinded by love.
agree with Philip. there is no way the girl loved the guy from the states. He just got scammed!
Hi Feyma,
I look forward to part two of this article. I got a feeling it does not end well for this foreign man. People talk about foreign men being like a kid in a candy store in the Philippines and I certainly believe that there is truth in that, but when a young beautiful Filipina comes to the US it is her turn to be the kid in the candy store and if she does not feel committed to her husband…I see trouble on the horizon.
This is a sad case. I can’t help but wonder how she will behave herself here in the States. She has an itch for cheating–and she’s definitely going to scratch it.
lesson should be learned….foreign guys should know how to pick decent filipinas…not because they are poor meant they are also poor in character and their personal being…there are also rich filipinas who are an itch. and there are also poor filipinas who have character and decency. further, i advise these foreign guys to know better the filipina they’re going to marry. should be someone who at least have education, mannered and most importantly, decent enough…there are many decent filipinas around, not only are they beautiful, they too could become the best wives in the world….
agreed
Given the number of marriages that end in divorce in the west it seems that western men arent any better at picking future wives there than they are here ! [ or filipinas picking good foreign men – ie men who will treat them with respect . It seems many filipinas make poor choices re chosing a foreigner]
A sad story but nothing new. Not only to foreigners My brother-in-law, a Philipino, married a girl from his home town. He was already an American citizen and I think her family pushed it because it got her to the US, he was US military and , of course, financial reasons. Her boyfriend from the PR got to the US, moved to where they lived and she had an affair. My brother-in-law found out and kicked here out. Personally, I think he was a lot more forgiving than I would have been. One phone call from him and US immigration would have put her on the next plane to PR. He is married again now and after some trouble, it seems to be working.
This is 100% guaranteed failure.
There is no love here.
Poor sucker.
I would have dropped her like a hot potato.
The story sounds familiar. I was the “other guy” once, but it’s not what you think. I was friends with my ex-gf. She was in town for her wedding and we met up, as friends, just to chat. Rumor circulated that I slept with her, which was not the case at all! Women in the province love–I mean LOOVE–to gossip. Way too many holier-than-thou peeps in the province who love to make crap up
Goo Point Jhun!