I will be attending a family wedding in Davao in the spring, and will be one of the Ninongs.
As a westerner, I am researching what that means, but cannot really get a good handle on what is expected of it, especially coming from the west.
Can you give me some short concise advice. I learn a lot from your site, but havent seen this term yet.
I emailed Bill back and answered his query. I was thinking of making his inquiry into a post here on LiP. I was thinking their could be more like Bill’s questions there that doesn’t really know much about being godparents here in the Philippines. So that’s why I made this post for you guys that’s new to the godparent thing here. Some of you might be shocked of being a godparent here. Some weddings/baptism there could be like 30 God parents. 15 males and 15 females. Some would even be more than that. They always say the more the merrier. More people will help then when troubles come for the couple. A lot of shoulders to lean on that’s what they say. Hopefully not big troubles though. But just in-case, a godparent should be there to support emotionally for the couple. They will also there for the couple in good and bad times.
Well, for a wedding attire mostly are formal. Some bride and groom they will have clothing for you already it might be included in the package with the wedding planner for rental. The clothing might be like the one we have here for the guys, we call it “Barong Tagalog”. When my husband Bob was asked to be a ninong, he almost always wears barong for the occasion. With my kids being the secondary sponsor like grooms men they were provided by the couple with barongs and the undershirts that goes with it. Or you can buy for yourself at any malls here. But if you are not with the regular size as the Filipino men, you really have to go the the tailor shop they will make it for you. Some are more spendy though. It all depends on the fabric that you like. Or you can just wear slacks and formal shirt.
You will have to bring a nice wedding gift for the couple. Nowadays, most couple will now registered at the bridal registry at the big malls. Just ask the bride and the groom, they might have registered themselves in one of the malls. I remember when one of our worker got married. They told us they were registered at the bridal registry at SM and NCCC. So I went there and at the mall they made a print out of what they were asking. I really liked it. It is more convenient. You don’t have to go through headache of double guessing what the couple needed.
After cutting of the cake and the toss the garter and stuff, the couple will have their dance. In our culture the family of the lady will pin money to the groom’s clothing, and the family of the groom will pin the money to the bride’s dress. I guess the godparent will pin the money to either the groom or the bride. You can also skip that since you already brought gifts for them. It is not mandatory.
I am trying to remember if I have already been a ninang before to a wedding. I think a long time ago I did. If I remember I didn’t make it and I asked one of my family member to substitute for me. I paid the fees but just have somebody there to attend in behalf of myself.
I will also tell here about my parents being the godparents in a small town. They’ve been asked to be a godparents a lot of times, like a few times a month. It’s either my dad or my mom would be asked. Since my dad had a position in our barrio, a lot of the young people when they get married they would asked him to be the their sponsor. I saw sometimes when those couple that my parents being the godparent with had marital problems. They would be at our house talking to my dad. They would asked advice from my dad and mom. As you know, in a little town the troubled couple mostly would asked the priest, since they have to travel to see the priest, it would be easier for them to see my dad or their other wedding sponsor on our town for that matter. Just by talking to the godparents it must really helped them. Some of those troubled couples before when I was young are still married until now. I saw them sometimes when I’m visiting our farm and me and my siblings were talking to them and they happily reminisce to us the good advice that my parents gave them and they are so thankful for it. It made me proud and wanting to be good to the godchildren that Bob and I have.
To all of you who were asked to be a godparent good luck and have fun.