“Then she told me of her problem with a person she cared about, her foreigner friend. It’s not her boyfriend because she’s a happily married. She just knew this friend for quite sometime now.” – Feyma
“Sounds like a Dear Abby problem to me”. —- From a guy that commented.
Well somebody’s comment about the “Dear Abby” thing that got me thinking. Hmm. I am kind of like a Dear Abby in the net for the Pinays. I am not trying to be conceited here. I not even one tenth of the real Dear Abby. But I tried to be to the people that email me and tell me their problems in life. I am not trained and have degrees from it. But just trying to help the Pinay and the foreigner that married and intending to marry a Filipina.
I receive a lot of emails from ladies (pinays) abroad about the problems they have with their spouses or with the in-laws. They will ask my advice and what can I say about their situations. They told me the reason why they are asking me since I have been married to Bob for nearly 20 years then I have some experience with life. I got some interesting emails down to I am feeling sorry for them. I was not a Dear Abby reader while in the States before. I think I just read her column once. I just heard it with some friends before.
I will give you some sample of the emails I got. I got an email from somebody asking me what to do with the guy that she is dating with. She really like the guy, she said she knows the guy likes her too, but she said they really had big problems with communications I guess being in 2 different cultures. She’s really worried because she felt that the guy has been avoiding her. Well, I tried to give my advice and of course she knows the guy better than I do.
Some other that the lady really wanted to retire here but the husband would not. She wants me help her convince the husband to retire here. She even gave me the email address of the husband. Wow, what can I do to help on that. It’s kind of awkward though, how would I convince somebody I don’t even know.
Some other, a guy asked me what would I think of his girlfriend. He will gave me a small background of the girl and he will rely on my answer if he should marry the girl or not. How could I answer stuff like that I never even meet the girl or know the girl. My goodness.
Or some guy from there (from the West) will send pictures and he wants us to find the lady in the picture. And you know what, the picture that was sent to them by the lady they are corresponding with was the actress or the sexy starlet here in the Philippines.
Some ladies would email me the dilemma they have with their mother-in-laws. They are having trouble handling the attitudes of the in-laws. I have some with the lady has problem dealing with the step children. Some step children were older than they are and having trouble with the money that the husband will leave behind. To think the husband’s not even dead yet. But they’re fighting over the inheritance already.
So that’s just some of the private emails I got from people. It’s hard to tell those people what to do especially I don’t even know them. It never crossed my mind about the Dear Abby thing until the guy comment to me about it. Really I didn’t even thought about it until now of how much emails I got. It’s really coming from the ladies and the guys. Really I could go on and on about it. Some of them that got me thinking for days because of the severity of the problems.
Some are friends (foreigners) for a long time and asked my honest opinion on the woman they are dating with. They are having problems dealing with the girl. The guy want’s me to be a friend to the girl and maybe just tell the girl a little bit of my life living in the USA. Most of the ladies will tell the guy they don’t like me because I am too old to be their friend. A lot of times I just laugh it off and just say to Bob look who’s talking they don’t like me because I am too old for them but they are dating older guys. Hmm, strange.
I am not trying to give out the identity of the people here. A lot of times I get same or similar problems to a lot of people. I am generalizing the emails that I got. To be honest with you I just want that other people can pick out some lessons from a lot of you guys that comment here on LIP. I thank you again for giving people good advices here.