I just wanted to write this story because it really is a big problem by some family here in the Philippines. Last week a cousin of mine arrived from Luzon. This is the first time in my life meeting her. She already heard of me through her brother who came here middle of last year. Their dad is the oldest child out of 7 children in my mom’s side of the family. Before my grandfather passed away in the mid 70’s I used to see my uncle almost every year. My uncle and my grandfather had a close relationship with my dad because my dad was really honest and respectful to them. My dad was the one who took care of my Lolo if he ever had problems with his land.
A few months ago my uncle died of a stroked. Before his death he always tells his kids to come to our province in Sarangani and get connected with the family and also get the share of the land that they have not even had a share for over 30 years. The kids of my uncle didn’t pay much attention at that time because my uncle and his wife were working on the land that was owned by the family of his wife, somewhere up north of Manila. Out of curiosity his youngest son really came here to Mindanao. He did come here last year and tried to claim what property belongs to them. I was happy that he did.
Well, at first he had a warm welcome from my cousins who live in Sarangani Province. Later when my cousin from Luzon wanted the share that belongs to his dad my cousins from Sarangani talked him out of it, try to forget the 30 years that they didn’t give anything. My cousin from Luzon said that he wished he could do that. It was agreed upon by his siblings before he his coming to GenSan that he will get the share that they didn’t get for 30 years. So he told my cousins from here that he wanted to get if and even if they will pay him slowly. I guess my cousins from here can’t come up with the money they just pointing fingers to each other. Some of my mom’s siblings live in Cebu City, Lanao Del Norte, Luzon, GenSan and some part of Sarangani Provice. One of the sibling in Sarangani Province should be the one taking care of the land, but the youngest sibling and her husband really got greedy and wanted all the share of the land. The husband would even scare my other aunt from Lanao when they come for a visit and wanted to get their share. When my mom was still in good health she would always say to the greedy aunt and her husband to give the share of the brothers and sisters. They just laugh and think they can get away with it. With my cousins now from Manila that come to get their share my greedy aunt and her husband were asking my sister what to do because they know they are in trouble. My sister told them to give what belongs to the sibling.
Last week when I saw my cousin she was really crying when we talked, she told the family in Sarangani that we should be hugging and loving each other instead of fighting. While my cousin was here at our house, I guess she got a call from the family from Sarangani that they have to see each other at the barangay hall to talk more with the barangay captain to resolve the issue. Well, her brother and some of my cousins and 2 of my siblings went to see the barangay captain. While my cousin from Manila was talking and telling my cousin that they will just get part of the 30 years. My cousin from Luzon were not even finished talking yet, one of my cousin from Sarangani slugged the cousin from Luzon in the face. My sister was really mad at my cousin from Sarangani. She told them that they really make themselves in more trouble now. I just could not believe what my other cousin has done just over money. Now my cousin from Manila told my sister that she is thinking of filing a case against some of my cousin from Sarangani. I told my sis I don’t blame the cousin from Luzon for that. They came here nicely, they should be treated nicely and fairly.
I wished my other aunt and uncle followed what was written in the papers that they all agreed upon a long time ago. This might not have happened. It’s really sad and disgusting. Just to be fighting to the point as if killing each other for just a small portion of the land.
Did anyone has similar problem? Any advice is really appreciated!