I’ve been observing and hearing from others that a lot of the expats living here just could not make it. It is hard for them to adjust. They really want to bring with them the lifestyle and the way of life from the place where they are from and tried to apply to the people here. They wanted to bring the freedom of speech or whatever they have from the place they used to live and apply it to the millions of people here. Dude, it just doesn’t work that way. You can’t just bring with you everything where you’re from and try to influence the people here. If ever they want your way its good for you, if they don’t, don’t force them. You could end up in big trouble that way.
I’ve talked to a lot of Pinoys here and they said that “if any of the people (foreigners or a Filipino who lives or grow up in other countries) wanted to lived here, its okay, but always they would say don’t tell us what to do with our own country, we Pinoys did not go to the country of that foreigner and put a gun on his head and tell him to live here in the Philippines. That foreigner came here to live with his own free will. So he has no right to tell us what to do”. Wow, pretty big statement.
What can I say on that. I totally agree with the sentiments of the people here. When we decided to move here, we did not consult my family or the Philippine government for that matter. It’s just Bob and I talked about it. We had our share of big frustrations here but at the end Bob and I decided to go with the flow. It took us almost 5 years to fully get adjusted here. It was not easy, as we always says here on LiP. But we sure made a commitment before coming here to the Philippines to try to adjust ourselves within 5 years. If after 5 years we were not happy living here, then we have to leave the Philippines and go back to the States. But luckily Bob and I and the kids were totally liking it here. Especially Chris, to be totally honest, his one of the reason why we moved here. My family really is a big help for Chris. I’m really thankful to my family for being always there for him. He likes to stay on my parents farm. A few of my siblings live there and always welcome him to stay at their place. So it’s a big plus for us.
Geez, when we first moved here, I had my big shares of frustrations when it comes to time management. When we set a time meet up, it could be my family or somebody, they might shows up like 30 to an hour late. It really irritates me a lot before. Now I just try to do something while waiting. It’s totally different now. I have to adjust or else I’m going insane. Not really cool.
I will tell you a story: A friend of mine own a house that she wanted to be rented. She found a renter. On the first day that the renter moved in he already got in trouble with a few houses nearby, to those people that owned some dogs. The renter sent his girlfriend to tell those people that their dogs were so loud and please let the dogs be quiet. One of the neighbor got aggravated and told the girlfriend of the renter who are you to tell us what to do in our own household. A few days later one of the neighbor had some work done in his house and of course it would be loud on the sounds of the hammer and the drill, again he told his girlfriend to tell those people to be quiet. My friend told me “Oh God I wished I didn’t let him rent my place. He is really a headache”. They’ve been to the Barangay captain a few times in just a month. Finally my friend told her renter to just find another house for them to rent out. My friend’s been having other renter there before and she did not encounter too many problems like. Her renter just stayed 2 months there. After that my friend said that she will not rent to foreigners for the meantime. She’s happy with her renter now, a high up worker at one of the malls here.
Here’s another incident: I was buying something at SM a few weeks ago. And I was behind an older gentleman. I could tell he’s been living abroad and live back here, I think he is an OFW. In front of him another customer trying to buy something and she purchased something without a bar code to scan. The cashier then told her bagger to go to the aisle where that customer got the item and get the bar code for it. It took for that bagger way longer than we expected. My gosh, the older gentleman really told the customer what he thinks. He told the lady you are rude and inconsiderate of others, his going on and on. Why you just pay first what was ring by the cash register right now and pay that one item later when the bagger comes so that we can finished up here instead of standing here staring at the cashier. The lady that owned the item just ignore the old guy’s complain and just waiting for the bagger to returned. Of course we waited because other counters were also loaded with people. I was thinking there while watching the older guy having fits, hmm that could be me a few years ago, I could blow my top off and say something I would regret later. Well, the older gentleman wanting for me to say something. I just smiled at him and didn’t say anything. I think he got the message that he should just wait and try to calm down. I tried to talked to him about some other stuff instead. I am so proud of myself for having my patience now. Of course sometimes I’m no angel too. I could get my frustrations once in awhile. Hey guys it happens sometimes. 😉
Just like we keep saying here on LIP it is not an easy adjustment here. If you have no patience don’t live here. You have to carry your patience everywhere you go here. It can be tested once in awhile. As we always remind here too, vacation time is way different than living here. If you intend to live here try not to tell the folks how to live their lives, it irritates some of them. They don’t like it at all.
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