Hi to all ladies that want to come back here for good. I am writing regarding my adjustments here. I’ve been living here with my family for almost 8 years now. It is not been an easy journey for me. It started really rough on me and our second child. Just a month after arriving here I was ready to go back to the States. I was really in a bad shape here. The depression was high. As you know I had to re adjust to living here. I really felt I lost my friends, my freedom. I mean freedom like driving my own vehicle. I tried driving here and I just did it for a few weeks until I almost ran into a mom and a kid. It really freaked me out. I told Bob I will never try to drive here again. Its crazy and scary. I don’t want to die now. I had 4 kids to take care of. I think it took me like 3 years to finally adjust here.
Honestly at first you would be so negative here about almost everything. I think its normal though. It’s not easy to lose the privacy that you are used to in the place where you are from. Then seeing the less fortunate people living near you. I wasn’t feeling guilty, its just the feeling sorry for them all the time. It’s hard to see at first.
Now, I have some moments that I really miss the States. Like I really love to do crafting. As you know there are no good craft stores here in the Davao. I like to decorate bird houses. I love to go to the antique shop, even just browsing around. I also missed the time when I used to do volunteer work at the school of my son. I was recently invited to do volunteer work to the under privileged kids. I am going with the Bisaya teacher of Bob to help the orphan kids to do some crafts. I am excited. That will be fun.
Really all in all I love living here now. My son that wanted to go back before likes living here now too. He said he just wants to visit Granny someday. For almost 8 years we didn’t go back yet to the States for a visit. No sense of us going there my mother-in-law comes here to the Philippines regularly anyway. She’s the only family that we have in the States anyway. I talk to my friends fairly regularly too, so I still connect with them and get some scoop about them and their family.
Life is good here. I can’t complain! Good luck for you that want to retire here. Just really have patience and try to enjoy the adjustment process. Don’t give up easy. Give yourself some time.
Happy living here! Cheers!