Last week I wrote about the Family Feud. Well that got me thinking though after I submitted my post.
I was talking to my agent Mae regarding that house that we just went to. Both Mae and I first noticed the condition of the house. When we got near and inside the gate, being there less than 5 minutes, we both felt like throwing up. The outside of the house really stinks to high heaven with the dogs stuff and I think from the drainage. They could have covered the outside drainage with concrete. Just standing there outside I was already thinking if the outside was like this how much more the inside?
Well, when we went in, the inside didn’t have the really bad odor of the outside, but there was some smell inside. But just when we were going around to see the inside, it looked like the people that lived there are hoarders. Almost anyway. To be honest I never heard of people hoarding until one day watching on TV and saw it. I still didn’t believe in it. I just thought they just throw all the stuff all throughout the house for the sake of TV. I didn’t know it is really a sickness. I’ve never seen hoarders before until lately on TV. The people (Jenny and family) that live in the house I would say if they would not clean that house in a year or so they might not able to open any doors in the bedrooms. They would also be having a hard time walking around the house. Gosh it might smell worse than the outside then.
The living room had a nice big 40 inch flat screen TV. Can’t really see the beauty and the size of the living room as it was over shadowed by the mess on the floor. The only thing I remember was that the living room had vaulted ceiling. Going upstairs was really something. The stairway I felt every stair at the end near the rails on the floor there were lots of boxes and some plastic bags of some sort. When we climbed the stairs Jenny was trying to get rid of some stuff just for us to go through. I could tell she didn’t want that house to be rented because she told us everything wrong with the house. She said that the veranda, if it rained the water comes in, that it will be wet inside. She’s going on and on about the water from the veranda. When I looked at it, it was just an easy solution, just put an awning for that small veranda and its solved. I told Jenny she should inform her sister about it and I’m sure she will spend the money for problem rather than have the damage spread to the inside of the house. I didn’t really hear the answer from her if she had informed her sister or not.
To be honest I don’t know how the Mom could live there and not be sick. Just by the smell alone, its already bad for her. When we went there the Mom was not there. I think Jenny and family also has a farm somewhere. I hope the mom was there instead. The fresh air and the clean air would be better for her. I don’t know also if Jenny had some other siblings here in Davao or the farm.
Jenny told us that one of the rooms belongs to her sister. We didn’t see the inside because it was locked. Its not just Jenny and the mom that lived at the house. When we went there we saw small kids that lived there too with Jenny. Not really sure though if the sister from abroad already saw the condition of the house. I don’t know, maybe the husband of the sister told his wife the condition of the house. Just thinking maybe the sister just doesn’t have the stomach to tell Jenny about it. Just maybe she’s using the hubby and mother-in-law for it. I can see the resentment of Jenny towards the husband and the mother-in-law of the sister.
For me the sister should be the one to tell Jenny if she observes something about the house. So that Jenny will not have bad feelings to anybody and to her sister. The sister should tell Jenny and her family to have the house cleaned in order for them to stay there. I don’t think the sister really needs the money from the rent. She supports the mom regularly the way Jenny was talking about even though the sister’s married now. I just hope for a peaceful resolution for this family.
Cheers!
Hi Feyma,
That show, Hoarders, grosses me out. I can’t believe people can live like that. Sad for them because it’s all they have to live by.
Alex
Hi AlexB – I know what you mean. Never know before the show that some people lived like that. Its so unhealthy. It’s really hard seeing when they are showing gross and rotten stuff.
Good thing they got help. Hope they maintain after the clean up.
Thank you for stopping by.
Take care!
In the new’s about 3 weeks ago. It was said that a guy’s wife was missing and he couldn’t find her and the police brought out the dog’s to sniff for her scent. They couldn’t find any scent from the missing lady. Then maybe 2-3 weeks after that this guy went back to his house and he found his missing wife under a pile of garbage. His wife was an hoarder. This is a disease that people have.
Hi Tina -Sad to hear this story. I hope a lot of people learned from it.
Good to see you again here.
Take care!
I quess I am a hoarder then…because I have 7 computors! LOL…Not really…they are all used and fixer uppers…will say this, it is nice when one goes out just jump to the next one and etc…I have read that hoarding is a sickness….maybe one of my x-wifes had that sickness! with clothes and shoes…..
Hi Dan – Hey starts cleaning now before its too late. 😉 … LOL … Kidding… Hey we have those extra computer too (its inside the closet though) in case one of our computer give out. Thats what they said hoarding is sickness. Your ex should get help… 🙂
Thank you so much for stopping by here.
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Hi Feyma;
Have you wondered why all bad behavior is now a sickness? When I was younger that person would be called a lazy slob, but now they are “ill”, okay I guess now they would be called a “sick lazy slob”.
I’m just politically incorrect. Tiger Wood was labeled a Serial Cheater, or sex addict, the term “Male Slut” comes to my mind. I won’t make excuses for people that act in ways that differ from normal human behavior. If they are unbalanced get them help. Oh their not a lazy slob, “their a hoarder” that sure sounds nice. And I think your right, she doesn’t want that house rented, as she’d have to pay rent somewhere else, instead of living free. Is freeloading a sickness too? (lol) Keep looking Feyma, that great house is waiting for you!
mmmmmm Paul T- re your comment about not making excuses for ” people that act in ways that differ from normal human behaviour “- got me thinking. If I was world famous, had a billion usd, and could have my pick from huge numbers of gorgeous women any time I wanted- would I be able to resist?? lol Or is what Tiger did actually normal male behavior ?
Tiger has been called a sex addict by some, but I think many times our behavior is limited by the possibilities available to us. Its easy when our choices are very limited to pass judgment on others- but if I am very very honest with myself- I have to think a bit harder about what is normal. And I dont think that my question only applies to men !
People make fun of Imelda and her 3000 pairs of shoes. Just how many pairs of shoes would the average woman own if she had hundreds of millions of dollars? If a good pair of shoes cost $100 then 3000 pairs would cost $300,000. But I have friends who have spent more than that on a car- 1 car !! .
Anyway- not making any judgments here- just pondering my navel [ and a nice single malt ! lol]
Hi Ian – They called those people collector at first. When the collections scattered all over the place they called it addiction, then later its sickness. I wonder if Imelda still collects so many shoes? She might already got the help she needed. 🙂
Good to see you here as always.
Take care!
Ian;
The Sultan of Brunei has 5,000 cars, is he normal, or is he afflicted with with a rare ailment? Or just a lucky SOB. My point is if you do it, own up to it, don’t try to sell me that it’s not their fault, it a diseases.
I like beer, but I’m not an alcoholic, I know this because I don’t go to meetings. I just really, really like beer. Tiger can do what he wants, and it just none of my business. When I was single I ran those streets hard. The term Sex Addict, is some thing you come up with when your caught by the wife. How did that work out for him? Now he’s single, what are the odds he’ll become a monk? Is he cured? Or it the label just gone? BTW: To answer the question, Hell yes he’s normal!
Hi Paul – Hey they make the name more sophisticated sounding like”lazy slob” sounds better if you say hoarders. 😉 Really don’t know if they makes excuses or not. For me if the house is filthy dirty I don’t care who lives there its a messy house then to me. If those people be called a lazy slobs, hoarders, messy, and others, so be it they did not clean their house.
If all of them got sickness then they should get help right away.
We will start looking hard soon. Hopefully will find right away. Thank you for your thoughts.
Take care!
Hi Feyma,
I have never seen the show but I had a friend whose family had so much in their house that there were trails through it. I used to be a hoarder, but not from laziness. My father always told me that “you might need that one day”, so I had boxes of various parts and screws, then I went through some training at work, were we were taught that if will not be used in the next 12 month get rid of it. I started cleaning house. Got rid of my old clothes that would not fit me and had not been worn in “several” years. If I ever lost the weight they would be out of style anyway. When I moved to the Philippines all I brought was some of my clothes (I gave away the rest) and my 2 laptops.
Hi Feyma
Growing up I only knew hoarders since both of my parents were hoarders especially my mom. She could never throw anything out. I could never invite any of my friends over because of it. We finally cleaned out the downstairs last year which is 70 sqr meters and remodeled it, where I am now living. It took her much longer to clear things out sometimes only moving it to the garage or sub-basement then it took to the remodel. She is now slowly working on the upstairs and has now remodeled some areas though putting all her things back when it is done. I don’t know if it is a sickness or not, but I do know she was not always like that from the pictures I have seen of the house when my parents first bought it. I fight with her all the time to try to convince her to throw things out. Its a struggle.
Hello Feyma,
I would guess it is some type of sickness, I had three customers here in Florida back when I first moved here. I had never seen anything like it before, so much “junk” in one house, dirty and filthy. These people were widows, there husbands had passed away, they had no family living near them, they basically gave up normal life, got very depressed, and spent there money on “junk”, going to yard sales and thrift shops. Also having numerous cats with so much cat “crap” all over the house.
One house I went into the first day, my tan color pants were covered with fleas, you couldn’t see the tan anymore there were so many. I ended up canceling these accounts, it was just too filthy and nasty inside the houses, not sure how they all breathed in them.
So I guess it is a sickness, I’m not sure.
Take care,
Danny 🙂
Hi Feyma,
Maybe the sister that owns the house is aware of the condition. That could be the reason she wants to rent it out. It probably breaks her heart to see her house in such condition. I think the horders show is pandering to the people that want to attach a psycohological condition to everyone that exhibits odd behavior. The reality is that some of these people remember the depression era where resources were scarce and some are just lazy and are content to live in filth. It is quite disturbing that these behaviors are now validated because someone decided to hang a label on it.
Hi feyma we have had the occasonal hoarder on tv they collect all kinds of things from timber to old rubbish bags ,they just dont want to throw anything out ,most times they are given help and counselig to try to overcome this problem it must be awfulll to live next to someone like this as the chance of vermin and disease can only be hightened under these circumstances ,there is a house near us (we call it the stinky house) and they are just that hoarders the local council sent an 8 ton truck and front end loader to clean up last time and guess what it is almost as bad again ,this is public housing as well so we the tax payers are payig for the clean up each time i am just glad they dont live next door to me .
chris
feyma, even laziness is a sickness now? that is such a cop-out i think. also an insult to the truly mentally-ill!
my mom was also a hoarder…she loved jars and bottles and gallon jugs. she never could pass up on any “useful” container. there’s a perfect jar for just the right use. but she kept them clean and stored under the sink or somewhere. when it got to overflowing, she didn’t mind us throwing some out. but sometimes i had to convince her someone else could find a better use for her junk…I mean, treasures. makes me smile to remember all the arguments we had about them.