We all came to the Philippines because the food is the best we’ve ever had, or was it because the Government bends over backwards to make us feel welcome? Or it could it be the weather, hot, wet and humid? Could it also have been just to soak up the scenery and the culture?
I’m going to be honest and tell you why I’m here, It’s my wife, whom I couldn’t imagine not being with. I’ve traveled the world and met some good ladies and some not so good, but nothing compares to the lady I found here. Truly, she’s the love of my life.
Is she the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met? In my mind’s eye, the answer will be a resounding, YES! But there’s a lot more to it than just that. Such as, our two wonderful daughters, and Lolo Paul’s special granddaughter, who is the light in my life!
If you’re looking for a subservient woman, someone you can bend to your will, you’d best head to the airport now, because she’s not here. But if you want a loving, strong and caring person, than this is the place to be. A partner is the best way I can sum it up.
My wife causes me to want to be a better man, and has never tried to force me to be, or to change who I am. I’ll make the changes, and I have, but it’s because I wanted to, but I never was told to. In a line from a Kris Krisofferson song that goes like this; “I’m too old to break, and I’m too young to tame.”
I could ramble on about American women, they are this or that, but the real truth is, I’m no grand prize myself. Meeting my wife was my second chance to get it right. As far as I’m concerned, I have. To date I’ve been wise enough to never repeat any of my many mistakes from my past.
There have been many discussions here on LIP about the differences in age, and for the record I’m 13 years older than my wife. But it’s only a number, I’ve met guys who are 40 years older than their wife, and they were doing just fine, loving and respecting each other and making a life together. Last month while applying for my passport I met a man who’s been married to the love of his life here in the Philippines for 55 years, and she’s two years older than him.
By the same token I’ve witnessed major (or Major Major) disasters here, but I’ve see the same thing going on in other places also; it only proves the Philippines has not been exempted from relationship problems. Remember it take two to Tango, or tangle.
As my father instilled in his five sons; a man is normally larger than a woman, and if it gets physical, normally the man will win. So my sons, now that you know that, there is really nothing to prove. If you feel the need to prove you’re a man, do it in the bedroom. For with love is the only time you should put your hands on your lady.
So let’s enjoy the food, in moderation, learn to live with the bureaucracy, partake of the scenery and enjoy the culture. The weather? Well, just deal with it, as it damn sure beats snow. I chose to live here, and now you know why. And you thought it was just the beer!