I’ve been living back here for over 10 years now. I can really totally understand the people that want to retire here to wait until later, when they have money for retirement. For me it would be better at least you have the security in case the plan you made before coming doesn’t work out. If you don’t have money here you just get stuck and no place to go.
I met a fellow (he is a Pinoy), he used to work abroad for almost 30 years. He was a successful man on the job he did there. He was divorced abroad and he met somebody from here and planned to marry her. While working abroad he built a very nice and expensive house for the lady. He prepared that house for his retirement later. While the house was being built he came here often to see his girlfriend and the progress of the house. While she’s the big boss of the building of the house she also made herself busy by going back to school to study. The family of the guy was also helping the girl seeing the building of the house. It was really her decision that the worker had to follow since she’s going to be the queen of the house later. The family was okay with it, they thought that she’s going to be the wife of the guy.
While working abroad when the house was being built, he also purchased a pick up truck so that it would be easier for his lady to haul stuff, and also be easier for her to go around town and school. I could tell when he was talking that he also sent and gave good amount of money to his lady. He really indulged and spoiled his lady. He was even sending many things through balikbayan boxes for the completion of the house and for his lady of course. When he decided to move back here for good, he and the lady were staying at the house, the house was already done except for the swimming pool. While living with the lady, he heard of from some of his family members saying the lady had somebody on the side. Of course he would not believe it, first thing in his mind, the family was just jealous of his girlfriend because he gave the girlfriend almost everything. Then some of the other members of the family told him that the lady had a guy on the side.
It turned out she had 2 guys on the side. She had younger guys on the side. She’s a cougar. She got all the money to support to the younger guys from the guy who was working abroad. I didn’t really aske him bluntly if he caught the lady on the act. I’m not sure if thats the reason why he is not going back to her ever. He told me the reason why he is selling the house. To get away from this city at the moment. He might be moving to other parts of Mindanao or somewhere in Luzon just to get away from the lady. He told me that if he stays here he might bump into the lady somewhere in town. He said its still too painful for him seeing her. Quite honestly just watching him talking I could see his pain. Even his family especially his mom, she’s really in pain too.
He also told me that he might just have to cool off his head somewhere and he might decide to come back here later. So he might not sell or rent the house. My friend was a friend of one of the family. She just let me see the house if we like it and we could rent it. He might just let his family stay there for now. He just wants healing right now. That house was really his dream house he said. I think it is hard for him to let go. I asked him if he was sorry of his decision of moving back here. He said NO. He said its been his dream to work and earned a lot of money abroad and live and retire here.
While walking through his house. One of the people that was with me made a comment. She said, “what was really the girlfriend of this guy wants? Humanly she had everything she ever wanted. She continue on saying that the guy he is not ugly and physically his fine”. I just give my friend a big smile and told her, that really some people are not satisfied of what was given to them. It’s always the grass was greener at the other side of the fence. Is it really a human nature? Or is it just an excuse?
The thing that really attracted me to the house was the decor and the open space. A lot of the fixtures and the decors came from States and Europe. I know I’ve never seen most of his decor here. Lots of Thomas Kinkade paintings on his wall. Gosh, seeing the place reminded me of the decorations that I saw in some of the houses and in some showrooms in the States. That house just not for us though. The location is not ideal for my kids and for our business.