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Important Message - see what you think

Important Message – see what you think

I saw this post on my news feed on my FB. It’s something for the family here to think about. Maybe they will lower the high expectations of the loved ones they have abroad. It’s a thought provoking message especially to those OFW in the States and other parts in the world. Living here for a long time I hear often some of the comments below from the family here and the person that lived abroad. I just hope that the family here will value the sacrifices that those family they have abroad.

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We know a lot of people here in the Philippines who have family members working abroad.

How arout you?  Do you know Filipinos or others who are living abroad to support their family?  Even some foreigners live like that, even a number of LiP readers who come to mind.

Maybe some of you experience some member of family that had high expectations. Feel free to share here. I’ve heard too many stories here and while I was there too.

*** Not really easy to translate ***

It was written in Tagalog. I will try to translate the best way I could.

Para sa inyo na akala mayaman kaming nasa America!!! Basahin mo mabuti ito ng maintindihan mo ang buhay namin dito!!!


Lahat ng sinabi niya nakakatuwa at TOTOO!!!
Akala ng mga tao na nasa Pilipinas kapag nasa America ka akala nila madami ka ng pera.
Akala nila mayaman ka na kase may kotse ka na. Ang totoo , kapag hindi ka bumili ng kotse sa America
maglalakad ka ng milya-milya sa ilalim ng init ng araw o kaya sa snow. Walang jeepney , tricycle o padyak sa America …

Akala nila masarap ang buhay dito sa America .. Ang totoo , puro ka trabaho kase pag di ka nagtrabaho , wala kang pangbayad ng bills mo sa kotse , credit
card , ilaw , tubig , insurance , bahay at iba pa. Hindi ka na pwedeng tumambay sa kapitbahay kase busy din sila
maghanap buhay pangbayad ng bills nila.

Akala nila masaya ka kase nagpadala ka ng picture mo sa Disneyland , Seaworld , Six Flags , Universal Studios at iba
pang attractions. Ang totoo , kailangan mo ngumiti kase nagbayad ka ng $70+ para makarating ka dun , kailangan mo na naman ang 10 hours na sweldo mong
pinangbayad sa ticket.

Akala nila malaki na ang kinikita mo kase dolyar na sweldo mo. Ang totoo , malaki pagpinalit mo ng peso , pero
dolyar din ang gastos mo sa America . Ibig sabihin ang dolyar mong kinita sa presyong dolyar mo din gagastusin.
Ang P15.00 na sardinas sa Pilipinas $1.00 sa America , ang isang pakete ng sigarilyo sa pilipinas P40.00 , sa
America $ 6.50 , ang upa mo sa bahay na P10 , 000 sa Pilipinas , sa America $1 , 000++.

Akala nila buhay milyonaryo ka na kase ang ganda ng bahay at kotse mo. Ang totoo milyon ang utang mo. Ang bago mong kotse 5 taon mong huhulugan. Ang bahay 30 taon mong huhulugan. Ibig sabihin , alipin ka ng bahay at kotse mo.

Madaming naghahangad na makarating sa America ..mahirap maging normal na manggagawa sa Pilipinas. Madalas pagod ka sa trabaho. Pag dating ng sweldo mo , kulang pa sa pagkain mo. Pero ganun din sa ibang bansa katulad ng America ….
Hindi ibig sabihin dolyar na ang sweldo mo , yayaman ka na , kailangan mo ding magbanat ng buto para mabuhay ka sa ibang bansa.

Isang malaking sakripisyo ang pag alis mo sa bansang pinagsilangan at malungkot iwanan ang mga mahal mo sa buhay.Hindi pinupulot ang pera dito o pinipitas. Hindi ako naninira ng pangarap , gusto ko lang buksan ang bintana ng katotohanan

Ang bottom line para sa akin ay


Pero pag retired ka na at dala mo dolyar mo sa Pilipinas mas maganda lalo kung palainum ka ng kape. Dun sa Pinas, voice activated ang coffee maker. Mag salita ka lang ng “Inday, kape nga dyan!” Lumalapit ang kape sa iyo at alam na alam pa nga timpla mo!


For you that thought that all of us here in America are rich!!! Please read this carefully so that you understand the way we live here.

Life in America!

All that said were in fun and truth !!!
Most people in the Philippines thinks if you are from USA that you are loaded with money.They think that you are rich since you own a car. People there did not realized if you don’t have a car in America, then you will walk miles and miles under the heat of the sun or the snow. No jeepneys or tryicycles or trisikad in the States.

They thought it’s a bed of roses there in the States. The truth, you had to work hard really hard, if you don’t work there then you don’t have the money to pay for your bills for your car, credit cards, electricity, water, insurance, housing and and the list goes on and on. There you can’t just hang out with your neighbors house. They too are very busy working to earn a living.

If you sent pictures to your loved ones in the Philippines, that you’ve been to Disneyland, Seaworld, Six Flags, Universal Studios and other tourist spot. You need to smile because you paid over $70+ for you to be there. On top of that you need the 10 hour paycheck for your ticket.

They think you had so much money because you earn in dollars. Yes the peso exchange rate’s high, but being in America your expenses are in dollars too. You earn in dollars, then you will spend in dollars too. Just like the sardines in the Philippines it cost P15, in America sardines cost $1.00. A pack of cigarettes in the Philippines cost P40.00, In America it cost $6.50. For a house rental in the Philippines it’s P10k, in America $1,000 ++.

They think you’re a millionaire because you had fancy house and car. They didn’t know that you owe millions in peso for your car, 5 years to pay maybe. The house maybe 30 years to pay. Means you are a slave of your house and car and other material things.

So many people wanting and wishing to live in America. (understandable since pay for workers here are low) It’s difficult to be a normal employee in the Philippines. Often times too tired of working, then when the paycheck comes it might be enough for food. If your earning dollar, it doesn’t mean to say that you are already rich. Living abroad you have to work really hard (not too many family will help out).

It’s a big sacrifice to get out of the land you are born with. It gets lonely to be away from your loved one.

You can’t just pick the money in the trees there in the States. Have to work really hard. Just trying to be truthful.

The bottom lineThere’s no place like home, My Philippines. Whenever you get older you will return and bring your hard earned dollar in the Philippines. You will spend the rest of your days to the place where your born.

Side note: When your into coffee. In the Philippines you  will have a voice activated coffee maker. You will just say “Inday, coffee please” Then the coffee will come to you and it’s also to your liking. Lol




Feyma Martin is a Columnist here on the Live in the Philippines Web Magazine, she is the wife of site Publisher, Bob Martin. Feyma is originally from the Philippines, but went to the USA for 10 years after marrying Bob in 1990. Bob & Feyma moved to the Philippines to live permanently in 2000.

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Alan Gordinier

I am very saddened to hear of Bobs Eye condition.He is a wonderful person who helps every one to live the dream of living here.Sure hope there is a way he can regain sight in his left eye.

Bob Martin

Thank you Alan, I appreciate your thoughts.


Wow, so true Feyma. The dollar really goes far in the phils but not so much here, especially when everything is so expensive. And I live in Los Angeles where taxes are among the highest and things cost the most!
However I’m truly happy that when I send money to buy or help for something in the phils, it goes really far. And though she never asks for any of it, my future wife appreciates it like no other 🙂 it’s why so many sacrifice working over seas, family is paramount .

Byron Watts

For all those who thought all Americans are rich, I confess that I am not. Though, the future, while uncertain, holds great promise.

Thanks for your article!


Two Filipinos arrived at New York, JFK airport and as soon as they stepped out of the airport one of them saw a $20 bill lying on the sidewalk.
As he was about to bend down to pick it up, the other one said; ah…, let’s rest first, we’ll pass this one, we’ll start picking them up tomorrow…


Oh my God! This post has struck a REALLY RAW nerve with me. I am going to be totally blunt on this issue. I love filipinos. I really really really do. But far too many filipinos, that live in the Philippines, have it totally wrong. They think every person from America, the UK, Canada, Austrailia, or wherever has a lot of money. To them we might have a lot of money, but in reality many of us don’t for the reasons the letter mentioned. Cost in our country are MUCH MUCH higher. I have a lot of filipino friends in… Read more »


Could not agree more.


I know I will get a lot of flak in what I will write but here is my take on this: I think it’s the Filipino coming home (not all) who perpetuate this myth you see them with their trendy clothes, flashy jewelry, expensive watch and gadgets, branded bags and shoes. Going in debts just to bring gifts for everybody, having a party left and right so of course people who sees them think my god they are rich and living my dream. I have lived abroad for almost 13years but from the onset I managed the money I send… Read more »


Gezel, you certainly will not get a lot of flak from me. I agree with what you said. I have seen so many times OFW’s and filipinas married to American men that actually don’t have much money put on “the show” for family members. They really cannot afford to to this, but it is like it is expected. So yes, the OFW and person married to the foreigner does bare some responsibility for the issues. I really wish more OFW’s would put their foot down and set the rules and stick to them. You are not all rich, you work… Read more »

Gary Dadds
Gary Dadds

Todd and grezel I so agree but you are just knocking your heads against a wall. Try and explain that you are not rich and expenses are huge abroad and all you will get is the 1000 yard stare.


Mrs Feyma,

OFW’s due more harm than help the Philippines. There families rely on the money and have no incentive to work and give the economy false growth. I’ve seen OFW’s work for years and when they retire they have nothing to show for years of hard work. The biggest thing though is the time away from there families which really affects the children.


Much of this have to do with “saving face”. The OFW comes back to the phils and must brings gifts and look “western” to show that they are really doing well.
The filipina who moved from the province to the city to work at the call center will spend more than she earns on gifts when returning to the province to look a certain way to her family. When this happens of course the family will want more.
Its a vicious cycle.


Willie, you are EXACTLY right. I have seen so many filipinos put on “the show” to make their families think they are living high off the hog in America or wherever…when in actuality it is not true.


Great article!!! I have heard so many sad stories about OFWs and Filipinas marrying “foreigners” falling victim to the cash grabbing families back home. Some are ignorant of the money situation in foreign countries, some don’t care and are just greedy and will gladly take and spend all you give them. Some are hardworking upstanding Filipinos who will really appreciate and do good things with the extra cash sent. The trick is not to send too much money as it just provides a platform for laziness and greed. My wife and I once talked to a Filipina who worked as… Read more »


Rodrigo, this article certainly hit a nerve with me like it has with many and your comment about the lady not going home for 30 years hit even more of a nerve. Where I live a number of filipinas work at Wal Mart. They have become my friends and many have not been home for many many years. We all know that Wal Mart does not pay real well. These filipinas so badly want to go home, but can’t because they are spending all of their money to help their families back here in the Philippines. I understand the need… Read more »


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