I’ve been living back here in the Philippines for almost 10 years now. I am thinking I still have lots of adjustments to do. As I said before its not easy to live back here.Really difficult, but its getting better over time. My first few months to 2 years here was really hell for me. It was so hard to get used to again to everyday life here. It was a big struggle for me. There were times that I just wanted to stay in bed and not wanting to be with other people. It’s just so depressing. I would cry a lot. It was hard to communicate back to my friends back then.
Maybe now it would be better and easier to get used too. Being good Internet connection now and calling abroad is way cheaper. The phone provider now gives good rates. Then there is Skype and of course we have the Vonage. A Vonage is like phone but needs an internet connection. You can call unlimited anywhere in North America 24/7 for $25. Being my mother-in-law and our friends are in Washington State we have our local number in that area. Our kids and Granny can call each other any time without paying any long distance call. It’s really convenient for us. I call up my friend in Japan regularly and pay only a small amount on that. If we used our cell phones its going to cost us way too much.
One thing that is hard for me to adjust here coming back seeing a lot members in my family keeps popping babies and can’t afford to support their own kids. Just going around town lots of poor people and kids begging for money. The parents are telling the kids to beg. One time we went to a Dunkin Donut place and outside the door there was a cute little girl begging for food and money. I asked here why she’s not in school its school days. She told me that “I dropped out of school because my parents can’t afford for us siblings to go to school”. Wow that really hit me hard. I was just lucky growing up. Bob and I then bought her a donut and gave her money. That night we went back after dinner and she was still there. We then bought some barbecue and some rice for her. My heart goes out to them and wishing I can help all of them . It took me awhile to get used to that. Bob and I wanted to helped a lot but we know that we can’t do it. It’s really depressing sometimes.
Just thinking back before moving here I was really petrified to move. Just thinking about it makes me cry a bit. To be honest I never wanted to move here. Do I regret in moving here now? Sometimes I do, its one of the hardest decision that I ever made in life. I didn’t really know at that time whats in store for us here in the Philippines. It was a roller coaster ride for us here. I would not recommend it to anybody who has doubts about moving here. Really hard adjustments here that will take forever at that time. The only thing that makes it easier for me to live here is seeing Chris more accepted here and he really is happy here. He is really loved by my family and friends here. He had good chance of having a better life here than in the States. He likes to go to our farm and stay there with my few siblings and help them with taking care of the animals and with harvesting corn or copra or squash. His learning how to make charcoal out of the coconut shells.
Back to adjustments here. If you are into shopping good and expensive stuff you have to live in big cities like Manila. You can buy a lot there and they had more stuff than in the province. We are residing in Davao City. We have good stuff here not quite as good in Manila. Even eating places we don’t have a good variety of places to chose from. Can you imagine the small towns then, they don’t have a lot. You have to fly to Manila or go to the nearest big city then. But hey, if you want to live simpler life then the small towns is okay for you then. Each of us has preferable place in mind to settle here. Bob and I lived in GenSan. At that time its so hard to get any anything there, we have to come to Davao to buy just simple stuff. But now they really improved big time. More malls and more stuff. Before moving back here Bob and I decided that we would never live in Manila. If that happens we would rather go back to the States. We just don’t have the desire to live there. We really are happy in Davao. I know its getting a little traffic now but still we like it here. Hopefully we would lived here for awhile. My family really are wanting me to live in Gensan because its closer for Chris to go to the farm then. Will see what happens after our youngest son graduated high school.
To be honest a lot of people came here to lived and they will just stay months to few years and go back to the country the guy belongs too. I felt for them because they have to start all over again. It’s not easy to come here, it cost a lot of money and same thing on moving back there. With the good information now on the net try to study hard and ask around before coming here and make a commitment so that your hard earned money will not go to waste. To tell you frankly its really very difficult to adjust here. A lot in life here is so backward, but try to really handle it. Not all of us can do it. When coming to live here you have to carry a lot of patience with you. Try to go with the flow, which is so difficult. You can’t make it here if you have so much anger with you. It will trigger then here, at the end you will end up in jail. I’m sure that’s not the kind of life you want. Please think real hard before moving here.
Good luck to all of you that wants to live here!