Last week, I invited a group of Filipino friends over to my house to sample some of my freshly roasted and brewed coffee. I know that these people are serious coffee lovers, because I see them often in local coffee shops, so I decided to invite them over for some seriously good coffee!
We not only enjoyed good coffee, we also had some great conversation. I know all of these people pretty well, and enjoy their company, although I don’t get to socialize with them too often because we kind of run in different crowds, and I am also older than they are, so the times we get together are really not often enough due to the circumstances.
During our conversation, one of the people was telling me about his new job, and that it involved a lot of interaction with foreigners. He asked me if I know some of the people the he dealt with. Indeed, I knew most of them, and I told him so. He next said, “oh, you must socialize with these foreigners a lot.” “No,” I replied, “I really don’t, because a lot of those people spend most of their time complaining about the Philippines.” My friend confirmed that he had noticed that too, and asked me why that was the case.
I explained to my friend that I didn’t know why, but it is fairly common that a lot of foreigners, when they get together, basically complain about the Philippines for hours on end. That is the reason why I don’t get together with these folks too much. I don’t like to complain like that. Yes, there are things about the Philippines that I could complain about, no doubt about that. But, I choose to mainly focus on the positive side of the Philippines. I mean, overall, I really enjoy living here, and why would I want to spend my time complaining about the place?
Another thing that I have noticed, before I even moved here, is that some of these same type of people who spend their time complaining about the Philippines, when they go home, they spend their time glamorizing the Philippines and complaining about their country of origin! So, the only thing I can figure is that some people just have to complain, or they are not happy!
Why not look for the brighter side of life instead of watching for the rain clouds all the time? It would seem that you would be happier with your life in general if you are watching for the good things instead of complaining about the bad. Also, when you spend your time complaining about the Philippines in front of Filipinos, it really kind of gives a bad impression about foreigners to these Filipino people. That makes us all look bad.
No mattet where you live, there are things that are not so good, which you can complain about all you want. But, if you choose to talk happily about the good things in life, I think you’ll be happier overall. And, you’ll make a good impression on the people around you too.
I love the Philippines, do you?