For a married man, one of the hardest things about living in the Philippines is that there are too many beautiful women here, and honstly, you will find that they will chase after you. Coming from the States where a middle aged, overweight guy gets little attention from the fairer sex, and living in a place where a foreign man of any age or description is treated almost like a rock star or a professional basketball player can be quite hard to deal with, believe me.
Over the years I have lived here, I have had to deal with this many, many times. In the beginning it presented great difficulty to me. In recent years, I have found that it has become easier to deal with. Perhaps it’s easier to deal with now due to experience, I can’t say for sure why. From time to time, I have had foreign friends visit me here, and if they are single and interested in meeting ladies, I just tell them to go to the mall alone, sit down in the food court, at a restaurant, or in one of the benches in the mall and within a few minutes they will be approached. It’s that easy.
I have found in the past that I have to be careful about who I give my cell phone number to, because if that person spreads it to others, I will often end up with girls texting me or even calling me, wanting to get together or meet up. Even if you tell these kind of girls that you are married, the response will be “It’s OK with me.” Some women here are very bold and will even come right out and ask you if they can “have a baby with you.” They say that they want a baby with fair skin, and I am sure they do, since that is revered here. But what else do they want? I have no doubt that having a baby with somebody here will also lead to requests for child support and all sorts of other financial requests. Don’t take me wrong, though…. if you make a baby, I do believe that it is your responsibility to support the kid financially. I just feel that the woman would be looking for financial support beyond what the kid needs.
What about blackmail? I am sure some women will hook up with you and do all sorts of things, but in the end will be looking for a payoff. You won’t pay? What if they contact your wife?
Imagine how it feels to go from a place where you are not desirable to a place where a lot of women are trying to lure you. It is not easy, and it can be very hard on a marriage. Even if you don’t act on the invitations, how would your wife feel about it? I know that it was something that Feyma had a hard time dealing with, but she overcame her feelings in the long run. How about for the man? Can you avoid the temptation? If you love your wife and don’t want to hurt her, you either need to have a very strong will or decide that moving to the Philippines is not the right thing for you.
The funny thing about all this is that the traditional Filipina is not a home wrecker or a loose woman that is chasing men at the malls. It would be my belief that the girls that act like this do so more out of poverty than any other reason. That doesn’t make it easier to avoid, but at least it’s a reason that can be understood. And, remember, not all women (or even a majority) are acting like this. I would guess that it is only a small percentage of women who do this, but it still is hard for a man to deal with! If you are sitting in the mall having a cup of coffee, it only takes on woman to approach you and make you an offer before you could possibly give in and do something that you might regret later.
How about you, could you avoid the temptations that are presented to you? It’s not an easy thing to do. Given this, could you still live in the Philippines?