Back in the mid-1960’s, Buck Owens had a hit country music song called “I’ve Got a Tiger by the Tail.” These days, when you mention a “Tiger by the tail” it has a whole new meaning. The world’s best golfer, Tiger Woods is in a rather difficult situation.
Back on November 27, Tiger Woods got into a somewhat minor car crash just coming out of the driveway at his home in Florida. At that point, Tiger’s world began to unravel. As I am sure anybody reading this already knows, revelations began about Tiger being involved with multiple women, despite having a wife and two children.
In addition to his family life, Tiger is also in danger of losing his livelihood as well. He can still play golf, of course, but his main income came not from his golf victories, but from the product endorsements that came with the championship golf that he was playing. Since the November crash, Tigers endorsements have been drying up.
What does this have to do with living in the Philippines? Well, honestly, it is very closely related to living here, if you stop and think it over.
You see, as I have pointed out multiple times on this site, as a foreigner, if you come to live in the Philippines, it is almost like you are a rock star, or a professional golfer, when it comes to women. It is just a fact that a lot of women will make themselves available to you. Many will almost throw themselves at you. Temptation will be part of your life almost daily. Can you live through the temptation?
Many men cannot have that kind of temptation dangled in front of them without falling for it. That is why a lot of marriages fall apart after the couple moves here. I know a lot of expats who lived in the States with the Filipina wife for years, then they decided to move back to the Philippines. A large number of these expats are no longer married, or at least are estranged from their wife because they decided to go for the parade of women who offered themselves, instead of remaining loyal to their wife. Some of these men returned to the USA to get a divorce (since divorce is not an option here in the Philippines), then returned here to play the field. Other men played the field while trying to maintain their marriage as well (this almost always fails). Some men played the field, and just separated from their wife and are still “officially” married, but not living with their wife anymore.
If you are looking to come and enjoy the company of the many young ladies here, hey, who am I to say you are wrong? It is not the lifestyle that I am here for, but if that is what you want, that is your choice. However, if you have a wife, and perhaps children, the odds are that you cannot have both the flings and the family.
In Tiger’s case, I believe that he gained huge wealth and noteriety at such a young age that he did not have the maturity to be able to handle it. Instead, he went for the candy that was being dangled before him. From his actions and words, it seems that he now regrets it. That is a lesson for you to keep in mind. What do you really want? The flings, or the lasting relationship? You should really decide, before you get in trouble and lose the one that you will suddenly realize that you wish you could keep.
I am not saying that either lifestyle is right or wrong. I know which is for me, but we are all different. All I am saying is that when you are used to being just a “regular guy” and you are suddenly a rock star, it can be difficult to maintain clear thinking, and do the thing that you know is right for you.