Over a year ago I posted about our helper here that has a teenage daughter from her previous marriage. The second husband of our helper tried to touch the daughter of our helper. He was beat up by the brothers of our helper and the husband was out of the house and he was staying somewhere with his relatives. When the daughter comes here sometimes to our house to help out her mom before. I kept on talking to the daughter and giving her advice to finish up her studies, because that’s the only thing she had right now to pursue her dreams. She’s in her junior year in high school. I’ve heard at that time that she’s already had a boyfriend. The parents of the boyfriend disapprove of her because they’re so young and didn’t finished their studies yet. The parents of the guy even sent the boyfriend to the province during summer break for him to learned the hardship of working hard to earn money. I could tell the relief of my helper when the boyfriend was away.
After the end of the summer when the boyfriend came back, the daughter of my helper and the boyfriend were getting cozy. The parents of my helper were even mad about it. Well the daughter just would not listen to them. My helper would seek advice from me. I tried to talked to the daughter once when she came here to my house. Even though I don’t have a job for her that day I invited her over to talk. When she came here at the house I could tell the changes in her physically. I already had something in my mind and just didn’t asked the girl that day. The next day when my helper came back to work, I asked my helper if she noticed her daughter throwing up in the morning or something. She said no because “she’s not in my house, staying with my sister”. I told my helper to just observe her daughter because I think she might be pregnant. She said okay. After 2 weeks my helper informed me that her daughter was pregnant. She was really devastated. I can’t blame her for that. My helper was really crying here at my house. Just to ease some pain away from her I told her that hey, you are not the only family that suffered like that here in this world. It happens to some members of my family too.
The daughter now is 5 months pregnant. She’s 16 years old, and the guy, he is i think 17 years old. The boyfriend has no job yet because he is graduating in high school this coming March. The parent of the guy said, their son will have to get a job after graduation to support his girlfriend and child. They are not going to help out big time because they have the siblings of the guy to support too. I asked my helper what she thinks of what happened to her daughter. She said to me that “I never fail to tell her that I don’t want her to follow my footsteps. That I want her to finish up her studies. She would just give me a smirk. I told her, I wished I was given the chance to go to school before. I gave her the chance to do it. She never listened to me when I told her not to be out during night time and don’t hang out too much with her boyfriend, she might get pregnant. It happens what I feared for.”
I guess now the daughter was sorry that she’s pregnant at the early age. The guy was not really there all the time to support her emotionally. She knows now that it’s going to be very difficult for them since both of them had no job. They both rely on their parents and relatives for financial support. My helper has 2 other daughters to support too. So it’s going to be a hard ride for all of them. My helper told me that she’s telling her daughter to start saving for the delivery of the baby. It’s not cheap to give birth here even if its in the house with the midwife. They are starting to gather baby’s clothing now. Like I told my helper that the hardship right now is just the beginning. They have to worry about later the food, clothing, medical and the schooling and more.
Somebody from the family were interested to adopt the baby when he/she’s born. My helper and her family are thinking hard and weighing their options. That’s what she told me anyway. I told her to really talk to her daughter and boyfriend about it. Think about what’s best for the baby. If they can handle everything why give up the baby. I told her that it’s not going to be an easy decision for them. I told her to pray and asked for guidance from up above.
I wish them all the luck!