It’s been awhile since I have posted a Dear Feyma letter here. I just didn’t go through a lot of my emails yet. But I had this email that caught my attention.
“Dear Feyma, I am a Pinay. An OFW working in the Middle East. I just got back from a month of vacation there in our beautiful country, I want to work extra hard right now to earn as much as I could. Then I want to retire there later. I have been supporting my family there ever since working here. I wanted to stop supporting my family, but I can’t tell them that. I just don’t have the face to tell them. Since the war started here in the Middle East, I have been thinking hard for my future. I want to settle down with my boyfriend . He is a Filipino who is working here too. We want to get married in a few years. He is also supporting his family (like parents and siblings) back home. Lately my bf and I were talking about saving our money for our futures. I felt guilty, Feyma, of doing this because I am used to helping my family. But I have also my future to look after too. My family lives somewhere in the Visayas. I have been reading some of your posts here about living near the family. I might have to give the small house that I built for my Papa & Mama. When me and my bf get married we might live in Mindanao. Watch out we might be neighbors someday. I learned a lot from the comments of your blog.
I want to earn and save my money right now, and invest my money later for a business. Do you happen to know what business is good in Pinas? I have family there that owned like a KTV bar. They asked me if I want to owned one for an investment. I told them no, I don’t have desire to own a KTV Bar.
Feyma I hope to see you and your husband when I retire there. I am thinking now of going to Mindanao next visit to Pinas to see what is good for me and my husband to be. Thank you so much for listening. Keep up the good work. I learned so much from this site”.
So guys I need your opinion on how to handle on telling the family that they will be cut off from the support that was provided for a long time. It would be hard for the family to handle then. The lady also has the right to cut them off because she has to start her own family too. This is going to be big change for the family. Well, they should be happy though, they already had a house built for them. All in all this is not an easy thing for the woman and the man. Not sure if the man would quit supporting his family. For me if she quit supporting the family the guy should also do the same, quit supporting his family.
Wow, her questions about good business here in the Philippines? That would be a hard one to answer. For one, I don’t really know what she likes to do. Even if the business is good, if the owner is not into it, more likely the business will fail. I hope when time she retire she will study first what is good and what she like to do first before venturing into anything here. That’s what I do anyway. But it is up to her. I really hope for the best for the lady and the hubby to be too.
Thank you guys in advance from your unending advice here. I really appreciate very much.