Yesterday, I wrote about the big “controversy” that broke out on Compuserve. BrSpiritus made a comment saying that when he married here in the Philippines, the decision was controversial among his family and friends. When I read that, it reminded me of an incident that happened to me when I first came to the Philippines.
In 1990, I spent the first 7 month of the year writing letters to Feyma, we were Penpals. After 4 or 5 months, I had developed some deep feelings for Feyma, and I had a strong desire to spend the rest of my life with her. I didn’t tell too many people about this, because I wasn’t sure that things would work out. I told only 3 or 4 people, including some family members and one or two of my closest friends. All of the people that I told were supportive, and I was thankful for that.
I scheduled a trip to the Philippines, with the intention to meet Feyma, see how we felt about each other, and if things worked out as I expected, I hoped to make Feyma my wife. As the time for my trip came closer, I went over and had dinner at my best friend’s house one night. I was scheduled to leave for the Philippines in just a few days, so naturally our discussion focused on my coming trip. My best friend’s wife, Mary, opened up and started talking to me. She asked about Feyma, and I told her all I could about her. Mary told me that she had a friend that she wanted to introduce me to. She told me about what a wonderful girl this was, and how she and I would be just perfect for each other.
I explained to Mary that I really wasn’t interested in meeting her friend, because I already had deep feelings for Feyma, and I was so excited to meet Feyma, and how I hoped that everything would work out as I expected, and Feyma and I would be married. Mary would not relent, though, she kept talking up this friend, and encouraging me to meet her. No matter what I said, the talk never stopped.
After a while, Mary slipped and said something that I think she had been trying to hold back. “Well, my friend is married right now, but she is planning to get a divorce soon, and then you and her will be perfect for each other!” Oops! I already was not interested, but this just sealed the deal for me.
There was never any doubt, I was already hooked to Feyma, even though we had never met in person. We had written to each other, seen photos of each other, and talked on the phone, and I knew in my heart that Feyma was the right woman for me.
What do you think? Did I choose correctly? Was Feyma the right one, or should I have given Mary’s friend a try?
I have no question in my mind! Tomorrow, August 9 is our 18th Anniversary. Seems like it was just yesterday!