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Living in the Philippines for more than 16 years now, I have come to notice many little intricacies of the Filipino people.  Many qualities of Filipinos are very endearing and nice, but a few are also annoying.

AnyQuestionsOne thing that bothers me to no end is if you have questions to ask.

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If, for example, I send a text message to most any Filipino and ask them 2 or 3 questions the response is almost always the same.  They will answer one question and no more than that!  So, I find that if I have 3 questions to ask, it is best to send 3 separate texts, one text with each question.  I am really not sure why people will ignore the other questions if they are all asked together. I have thought about this many times, but can never come up with a reason.

Have you noticed the same?  Like I say, I have learned to deal with it by just asking questions separately.  How about you, is there a way that you deal with this?  Or have you even noticed thatit is an issue?  I’m curious to know.

Bob Martin

Bob Martin is the Publisher & Editor in Chief of the Live in the Philippines Web Magazine. Bob is an Internet Entrepreneur who is based in Davao. Bob is an American who has lived permanently in Mindanao since May 2000. Here in Mindanao, Bob has resided in General Santos City, and now in Davao City. Bob is the owner of this website and many others.

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John

My wife did the same thing for many years until I finally asked why… she really didn’t have a good answer. I suspect it’s the translation process… a literal case of lost in translation.

MindanaoBob
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Yes. It is so common and a hard habit to break.

Gregory T. Bunn
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Yes, you are correct. Must ask or text one question at a time. Have no idea why.

Bob Martin
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That is my experience.

Priscilla Rumualdez
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Internet is too slow , might be number one reason I can think of… or sometimes you type your answer, but cell auto correct beat you to it…and your words are all wrong then you have to type it all over again..so thats why you only get one answer with all the question you asked…because if we don’t reply you might think you are being ignored…

Malcolm Mac
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I don`t know Bob…I know plenty of British people like that ! lol

Bob Martin
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I know some Americans like that but not many.

Ravi
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Ravi

I totally and most of the time they answer only the 1st question.
I believe it’s a matter of grasping and being focused.
By nature they try to impress but run out of focus in doing so.
Cheers!

MindanaoBob
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Hard to understand the questions maybe.

Håkan Olsson
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Yes you are absolutely correct if I ask a Filipino 3 or 4 questions I am lucky if they answer 1 of them.

Bob Martin
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Ha ha

Dick Milakovic Jr.
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Takes 3 or 4 questions just to a partial answer

Rick Marecle
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Learned a long time ago to never complicate things here, but I still have fun with it. When I go to Jolly be I ask “one burger steak breakfast, with coffee, dine in” Ok sir one burger steak breakfast, and what would you like for your drink?” (Coffee I say) OK and will that be take out or dine in? hehe and it happens every single time. Not sure why processing more than one thing at a time is a mental block. Maybe same reason cashiers will use a calculator on a 50 peso sale when given a 100 peso… Read more »

Bob Martin
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Hi Rick. You are right, keeping it simple is usually best.

Dick Milakovic Jr.
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They all that way

Bruce Cinader
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I not only notice it almost every time I ask more than one question, I have also learned you cant ask an either or question, or the answer could be yes or no or some other response that did not answer which choice was being accepted or responded to. Chatting with most Filipinos is very frustrating because you cant ask more than one thing at a time, and if you forget that rule you will get a fast reminder.

Bob Martin
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Oh yeah. You are so right about the either/or questions.

LeRoy Miller
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LeRoy Miller

I find that to be very true. I chat with my family since it costs so little. I will send a couple questions waiting for a reply to the first one. Big mistake. I just have to keep asking the same question until it is answered. As a secondary item, I have found with my family it often has to do with their hesitation to ask for money. For example, if I am discussing how much is needed for upcoming bills, school, repair, etc. when I ask for a figure, they hesitate to tell me. I am used to doing… Read more »

MindanaoBob
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Hi LeRoy. I agree with you about the money for bills, and I think that the resin you suggest is spot on.

Ronald McCarthy
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Ronald McCarthy

Bob, I can’t say that I’ve given it any notice!

I think I get answers to my questions from Filipinos no differently than from foreigners or other Americans. It may have been the case occasionally, but if so and if I needed further information I’ve not hesitated to ask.

Do you suppose that it may be one of those little sore points in life we experience in a personal way every so often? Like your spouse failing to put the cap on the toothpaste, or encountering some inconvenience with Filipino time?

MindanaoBob
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Interesting that you have not noticed. It seems that most commenters day the same.

Steve
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Steve

I have noticed that an either/or question gets the response “yes”.

And “until now” is not used to mean a change has taken place; e.g I was happy until now means, to me, that I was happy but am no longer happy but it is used by Filipinos to mean “I was not happy and I still am not happy”. Am I correct on that one?

MindanaoBob
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Right on Steve.

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