Just as I was typing this column the prayer for my Mom’s death anniversary has been started. See here in the Philippines in the Catholic faith if someone dies there is a 9 days prayer going when the person died. Same thing going on during the first year anniversary of the death. There is a 9 days prayer before the said date. Just like my mom, she died October 5th, so the 9 days prayer started September 27th. We did this since my mom was Catholic all her life. We honor her faith.
On the said 9 days prayer, my sister hired her neighbor to lead the prayer. There is a certain prayer that you have to do for the death. It’s like a Rosary in the Catholic that someone will lead. It will take like almost an hour for the prayer. It’s kind of nice because its really a prayer dedicated for my mom. While the prayer is going on a few sticks of candles should be lit up. Some family they had something lit in the altar until the 9 days prayer is over. Not sure if my sister did that though. After the prayer you have to feed the people that attended the prayer. It could be like a few to a lot of people. The last prayer would be done at the grave of my mom. We will be there on the 5th of October. My siblings wants us to stay there on the graves the whole day I think. Honestly I will follow them on this thing because the last time I attended an events like this during my sister’s death. That was about 30 years ago. With my Dad I was in the States, but went home for the 1st year anniversary but didn’t pay much attention because it was hard for me to accept his death. Plus I didn’t go to the grave of my dad at that time with my siblings because the security in our place in the farm at that time was unstable. So I didn’t really think of it. So with my moms death anniversary I will be off to GenSan for the event.
With the last days of prayer most families here in the Philippines will butcher animals for that. For us my siblings bought a whole pig and it will be butchered the early morning on the 5th of October. We will also have some chickens for the other family members that will not eat pork. Some of my family in the Farm might be coming to celebrate with us. Really it could be a lot of people or just us family. My mom died in the farm, but we will celebrate the anniversary in GenSan since my mom lives in my sister’s house for a long time and also my mom and my dad and my sister are now buried in GenSan anyway.
Some families here they will cook the food in the house and bring it to the grave and eat there. I don’t know if that’s what my siblings are planning to do. I think that’s the trend nowadays. I hope not like that. My parents never brought us to the grave of my sister and my grandparents before and eat there. I hope we will just do the prayers there at my mom’s grave and go home and eat at the house. Really whatever my siblings do I will just follow them and will see what happens. I am not going to tell them what to do. Me and my siblings are one for my moms memory. I thank them for being there during her sickness.
Mama may you rest in peace. Bob and I love you very much!
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