It seems that Feyma’s mother has embarked on a trip. She is on the road home. She actually started this journey several years ago, but over the past few days, it seems that she has nearly reached her destination. I am not with her and can’t see what she is seeing, but I am sure that a lot of people are waiting for her with open arms.
We got the call from one of Feyma’s sisters on Friday last week. Mama seemed to be very near death. The timing for this was not good, but no matter when something like this happens, it can never be “good timing,” can it? You see, the call came on Friday afternoon, and one of our kids was scheduled to have his birthday party on Saturday. Kids don’t understand these things, and for a child a birthday party is a big thing, so Feyma made the decision to stay in Davao until Sunday. Sunday morning, though, she headed back to her birthplace, Patag, Sarangani. Thankfully, Mama held on during this time, and is still alive, as I write this. So, they will get to visit with her mom, at least one last time.
Over the last five years or so, there have been a number of times when we thought that Mama would pass soon, but each time she made it through. This time though, it seems much more serious, and we don’t expect that she will last much longer. She can no longer talk, hasn’t eaten for several days, or even drank anything, so she is in very bad shape.
I would have liked to have gone myself to see her one last time. Although Mama and I have never been able to communicate much (she doesn’t speak any English at all), we always had a close relationship. I know it sounds strange, but that’s just the way it’s been. However, neither the kids nor I went on his trip. Unfortunately, that part of the country, Sarangani, has been somewhat critical in the last month or two. There were some MILF attacks in the area, and army operations in the area are still ongoing. Because of this, we felt it was best for the whole family to not go. I really didn’t want Feyma to go either, but how could I say no, it’s her mother after all. When somebody very close in the family is dying, sometimes you have to take a chance.
Feyma plans to stay just one day, and then return to Davao. Of course, she might stay longer, but that depends on her mother’s health. If things stay as they are now though Feyma will return by tomorrow. I know she would like to stay longer to be with her mother, but with kids and everything sometimes you can’t always do what you want to do. In addition, I hate being separated from Feyma, if she is out of town, I’m always on edge.
Mama has suffered many strokes in the last several years, and her health is very bad. Although you never wish for anybody to die, we do hope that Mama’s suffering will end soon. We take comfort in the fact that we know that when Mama leaves us, she will join Papa in a place far better than where we are now. And, she won’t suffer any more.
I’m looking forward to seeing Feyma again, and I hope that having seen Mama she feels okay about the situation, even though I know this is a hard time for her.