I met Bob for the first time in Cebu. I was there to study college. I never thought he will be visiting there that soon. We were corresponding for 6 months and he decided to come here for a visit. We talked regularly almost the time for his visit. My family in Cebu just didn’t have a phone at their house, so I had to go to the neighbors house to use their phone. I was not that close to those people, really they don’t know me that well even though I stayed with my aunt and uncle for a long time. I just didn’t socialize that much with other people. I just stayed home and be with my aunt, uncle, cousins and their kids.
When Bob went to see my family’s house in Cebu a lot of my family and neighbors were shocked. Not that many of them knew that I had been corresponding with somebody from abroad. Its just not worth talking to my family that didn’t know me that well. Only my close relatives knew about Bob.
When Bob and I decided to fly to GenSan to see my parents my aunt and uncle in Cebu went with us. It was the first time for them to be on an airplane. It was really amazing and nice seeing them go somewhere with our help. Honestly that was the first and last ride of my uncle. He died over 4 years ago. Anyway, my family from Cebu had a good time in GenSan at that time.
My parents and my siblings, they knew that I was corresponding with Bob. I told them when I came home to GenSan during my semester break. My parents were okay with it. When we got to GenSan, Bob asked my dad’s approval for us to be married? My dad said “NO”. His reasons was he is very ill and old. HE told Bob, “I really like you. It’s just that America is too far and its hard for me.” Wow, that was hard for Bob to handle what he just heard. He was so worried then. The next day my aunt and my sisters talked to my dad and told him that if Bob and I would be married and I will be in the States that we will come here to take vacation to visit him anyway. So then my dad talked to Bob again and asked him if we could visit here quite often since he is sickly. Bob said yes. We got married after 10 days. After 5 months off I went to the States and we came back here for a visit after just less than 2 years. My dad was so happy seeing us. We had our first child then. After visiting him here my dad passed away 5 months later. It was really hard. I love him so much.
Before Bob and I went to GenSan I had to get 3 weeks off from my school. I am lucky that my teachers allowed me to be absent that long. They gave me lots of my lessons to be studied and projects to do. I was like 2 months shy of our graduation. I got a little bit of a special treatment because I was the only girl of my course and they know that I can catch up with my classmates.
Wow thats already over 18 years ago now. I can’t believe time flies by so quickly. It was really a good 18 years for us.