Zosima Rodriguez Bayoy, born December 26, 1928 died on October 5, 2008 at 12:30pm in Patag, Sarangani Province on the Island of Mindanao in the Philippines. She is survived by seven children, five girls and two boys. Yes, Feyma’s mother passed away yesterday, and we were all relieved to know that her suffering had ended. It was something that we had expected would happen for quite a long time now, but you just never know when the exact time is until it happens.
As I wrote last week, Feyma had gone to Patag to see her mother, as the end was nearing. She stayed only one day and then came home to Davao. It was hard for her to see her mother in such condition, so she didn’t stay long. This weekend, on Saturday, Feyma went back for another visit, and was with her mother when she passed on Sunday at 12:30 p.m.. I haven’t seen Feyma yet since the incident occurred, and she is still in Patag as I write this. I’m not yet sure when she will return home, but I suspect that it will be tomorrow maybe, and she will make at least one or two more trips back during the mourning period.
What I do know is that when I just talked to Feyma on the phone, she was really broken up, crying a lot. Of course, how could she be blamed? She just lost her last parent a few minutes ago. While she is in a state of high emotion, and grief, I know that she is also relieved that her mother is no longer suffering, and she had suffered for a long time now.
I had known mama for 18 years plus, and she and I had a close relationship. We never really were able to communicate on a language level, but somehow we made a connection. She could not speak any English, for many of those years I could not speak any Bisaya. By the time I started learning Bisaya, she was already in bad shape and unable to communicate anyway. But still, we loved each other a lot, and we both knew it. I’m happy for her that she is now with Papa.
There’s not much more to say, except that I know that Feyma would appreciate your thoughts and prayers as she goes through this hard time. Of course her grief will pass, and fond memories of her mother will take the place of the grief in her heart. Feyma’s childhood was not always easy, and her mother could be quite a disciplinarian at times, but I know that Feyma has forgiven her mother for those days, and holds nothing but love in her heart for her mother. I’m very happy that Feyma was able to resolve that situation before her mother passed on. No matter what, I think all of us have certain issues with our parents from our childhood, and it’s always good to resolve those and put them behind us. If we’re unable to resolve those, it could be something that we will regret forever.
Mama, I’m happy you have finished your journey and have rejoined Papa. I’m particularly happy that I got to be a small part of that journey, and shared some life experience is with you. I will never forget you.