Today will be a big day in the Martin household. It’s kind of a long story, but I will just keep it short.
I don’t think I have ever posted on this blog about this, but my oldest son, Chris, is mentally retarded. It is something that took many years for us to accept and understand, but we do accept the fact now, and we do all we can to help him. Moving here to the Philippines was something that was largely influenced by Chris. You see, in a place like the USA, having a kid with a condition like Chris has is hard. There is basically no help. Everybody is busy with their own life, and have little time to really make a big impact in assisting the parents of a kid who needs constant help and attention. So, as Chris got older, we decided that a move to the Philippines might be good for us. Here, having extended family is good, because they actively assist us in raising Chris and addressing his special needs.
Of course, there were many other reasons why we decided to move here and live in the Philippines, but the needs of our son were among the top reasons for our decision. And, I would say that in terms of Chris and his needs, moving to the Philippines has been a wonderful thing. For one thing, in the States, a kid who is retarded or has other special needs is often treated poorly by others. He was teased by other kids in school. Most people don’t have the time or inclination to take some time to help him when it is needed. This put a tremendous amount of burden on Feyma and I. But, he is our son, and we love him. Of course, we were willing to accept that burden. However, if moving to the Philippines can lessen the load, that is good for Chris, Feyma and I, all at the same time.
Well, you may be wondering… “what is so special about today?” Well, you see, since mid-March, Chris has been hospitalized in a home for counseling. It is a place that has been teaching Chris some additional skills that he had been unable to learn at home. Part of the therapy that he has been receiving included that he was not allowed to see us, or talk with us for 2 months now. It has been really difficult for us, but we made it through the 2 months. We have been told by the nursing staff that Chris has made a lot of progress at the home, and we are so happy for that, and we are so excited to see him and see the progress that he has made.
Today, in just 2 hours from now, Chris will be coming home. It’s a day that we have been looking forward to. Not only Feyma and I, but our other 3 kids have been excited to see Chris again. Also, our employees, our other family members (extended) and such have all missed Chris so much.
Today will be a great day for us, and we are so looking forward to seeing our son.