I hear those words regularly from people… “I just sent her money for the airfare, she is coming soon.” Hmm… Let me fill you in with a little more.
Because I write in a number of places, and most of my writing is related to the Philippines in some way, a lot of people contact me with various requests for information when they need to find out something. The requests range, everything from information about finding a hotel, getting married here, relationship problems with a Filipina (or Filipino), all kinds of information about something in the Philippines. I get these every day of the week, every month of the year.
But, one of the very common requests is about relationships through chatting online. People will write and tell me about some wonderful lady that they met online six months ago. They chat every day with each other. Sometimes they even talk on the phone. The guy will go on to tell me that he has been very good to the girl, sending her lots of money for this and that. Doctor bills are almost always part of the equation. Parents always need medicine, so he sent money for that too. Maybe college tuition needed to be paid, so he sent that, of course.
His e-mail often ends…
I am so excited, she is coming to marry me soon. I just sent her $2,000 to pay for the airfare. She told me that she would use that money to buy the airplane ticket. I can’t wait.
Sorry, my friend. I need a little more information before I can help you. You say that she is coming to marry you. Have you ever met her before?
Oh, of course, we meet online for chat every day. We didn’t meet in person yet, because she is in the Philippines and I am in the United States.
Red Lights start flashing. Sirens can be heard. My friend… the United States Government will not just give the girl a Visa to enter the United States. For a fiancee visa you must come to the Philippines and meet the girl first, then YOU must apply for her Visa as your fiancee.
Umm… what? What do you mean? I never applied for any Visa for her. She told me that she needed $2,000 so she could come and be with me. You don’t know what you are talking about, Bob.
Sorry, my friend, you have just been scammed! The girl just took you for $2,000 (for that supposed airline ticket), and all that other money for doctor bills, school, medicine and everything else over the past 6 months!
You see, the vast majority of these young ladies in the Philippines can’t just buy an airplane ticket and go to the USA, or the UK, or Germany, or Australia or anywhere else except for a very small number of other Asian countries that will allow them to travel Visa free. At the bare minimum, these ladies must first go get a Visa to come. Problem is that 95+% of them can’t even get a tourist visa to go to the countries that I mentioned, because they don’t have the financial means to show that they will be returning to the Philippines. They will be denied if they apply for a tourist Visa.
Bob, I knew that you didn’t know what you are talking about! You don’t even listen! I told you, she is coming to marry me! Of course she won’t be returning to the Philippines, she will live with me here in the States. Whew! Now I know that my $2,000 is safe!
No, my friend… I am sorry. You see, she cannot get a Fiancee Visa unless you have met. As I said before, it is highly unlikely that she can get a tourist visa to even come for a visit. You know what? If she happens to get a tourist visa and comes and marries you, she has just committed Visa Fraud and will be deported.
Visa Fraud? What do you mean?
Based on everything you told me, she knew that she was coming to marry you. She got a tourist visa, but she is not a tourist, she is a fiancee. So, she lied in obtaining the tourist visa, because she has no plans to return. As soon as the Immigration people see what she has done, she is subject to deportation, and can never enter the United States again.
Honestly, I feel sorry for these guys who have been scammed. Often, they won’t even listen when I explain to them that they have been defrauded of the money, and they will even continue sending money. I have actually known a number of Americans who have sent more than $25,000 in a single year to girls who are doing nothing but scamming them.
Remember… these girls cannot just come to the United States anytime they want. Even though an airline ticket is out of reach, it is only the smallest of the problems that will be faced in coming to the USA for a Filipina.
Rule of thumb… if you start chatting with a girl here, and she starts asking for money, she is trying to scam you. Moms get sick, Dads need operations, school has to be paid, yes. But, these things were somehow, miraculously being handled before you sat down at that keyboard and started chatting with the girl. So, be careful.
One of my favorite all-time quotes comes into play here. This is a quote from General Russell Honore during the Katrina catastrophe in New Orleans:
Don’t get stuck on stupid!